A very good male friend and I are walking on a familiar beach. We are having a discussion, and although I can’t now remember the content, I know it was intense. We stop walking to face each other. The ocean is behind him and to the side of us. As we talk, I look over to see a tidal wave forming to the side of us. I become very nervous and scared, while he stays calm and collected. He keeps trying to calm me, while I keep assuring him we will die.
Then I notice another tidal wave forming behind him, seeming to come from a different source than the first. He doesn’t notice this second one until I point it out to him. At the moment he sees the second tidal wave, he turns around to embrace and kiss me. The dream then comes to a close with him and me kissing on the beach with two different tidal waves looming near us. I see this almost as if a camera has panned back to show the whole scene, like in a movie.
The background of the situation is that I have had to keep my friendship with my male friend a secret because of a close female friend of mine. I have explained to her that we are only friends, but she still doesn’t like us to be friends. This friendship has remained a secret for over a year, and has more recently become more important to me. Now I do struggle with the possibility of there being other (more romantic) feelings involved.
–Cara, age 29, single, Montreal, Canada
It’s a good thing that “tidal waves” aren’t as common in real life as they are in our dreams. Otherwise, we’d all be sopping wet!
Water in dreams is a universal symbol for emotions. Accordingly, when we dream of tidal waves, or of “rising water” in general, we are encouraged to look for areas in our lives where our emotions may be “running high,” or even threatening to overwhelm us. Given the background you have provided, it would appear that your dream is no exception.
You have told us that currently you are being pulled in two directions. Your feelings for your male friend are growing, as recently you have begun to think of him romantically. At the same time, you also are aware that your close female friend will become jealous — and perhaps even angry — should she learn of this blossoming attraction.