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Children and Counseling: What to Expect

Depression does seem to be hitting people earlier and earlier in life, due both to genetic properties of the disease and changes in society, says Graham Emslie, M.D., a faculty member at the University of Texas Southwestern’s psychiatry department in Dallas.

Few people have the close-knit families and communities of the past. Without emotional support, stress builds up in adults and children.

Kids must deal with the same stressors adults face: divorce, illness, crime, addiction, death. There is no shielding children from these things, and they respond as most human beings do – by being sad, frightened, anxious or angry in varying degrees. When the degree interferes with their success or pleasure in life, action should be considered.

Problems that bring a family into therapy frequently are emotional issues that can be handled in traditional talk and behavioral therapy. Sometimes parents just need a little help understanding developmental issues; other times complicated family problems need untangling.

The role of parents in therapy

Many, if not most, therapists who work with children require at least one parent to be closely involved. Family therapists require one or both parents to participate in the therapy. Martha Edwards, a psychologist in private practice and faculty member of the Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy in New York City, feels strongly about therapists who don’t include parents in the child’s treatment. “It’s practically malpractice as far as I’m concerned,” she said.

As Anna Beth Benningfield, a Dallas psychologist and past president of the American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy, points out, “It’s not that kids can’t benefit from individual therapy, but not having the parents really limits what can happen. It also helps parents to hear their children talk about their concerns. Parents are much more influential than the therapist. They’re going to be there after the therapist is gone. They’ll understand the child better.”

Children and Counseling: What to Expect

Walter Brown, Ph.D.

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Brown, W. (2020). Children and Counseling: What to Expect. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 7, 2020, from
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