There’s a prevailing belief that exploring your past in therapy is pointless. A complete waste of time. After all, talking about past circumstances doesn’t change them. It’s also self-indulgent and…
Divorce is one of the most stressful events anyone can ever experience. The pain of going through it can be overwhelming. The task of getting control of emotions becomes a…
Trauma, especially for a child, can often be so overwhelming that it encourages the therapist to focus solely on the individual. Yet often, the individual lives within a family system…
If the goal of child rearing is to help children develop into independent adults, it’s hard to imagine how that is possible if worry prevents them from doing the very…
Parenting is an amazing adventure. It is an honor and a privilege to raise a human being. It is fascinating, and wonderful to witness your kids evolve, and to grow…
Teenagers are supposed to be moody, right? One moment they are happy and laughing about a silly YouTube video and the next they are slamming their door to their room…
While ADHD can rob children of the executive functioning skills that are pivotal in life, it can also rob both them and their parents of the very relationship that can…
Teenagers are the greatest enigma. Maturing, yet still young in so many ways, teenagers are in a unique place in life, and when each young person brings with them not…
The West, and particularly the United States, has a strong ideological and cultural belief in rugged individualism. Asian cultures are more geared toward the importance of the group. Regardless of…
As parents, there are lots of skills we need and want to teach our kids. Most of us focus on the basics, such as teaching our kids how to feed…
When thinking about affect regulation, it becomes clear that early life attachment relationships between children and their primary caregiver are more than just an emotional bond. The relationship also serves…
Lovenheim stumbled on attachment theory while skimming his daughter’s college textbook several months after the end of a significant and tortuous relationship in his life. It was too late for…
Imagine going through your morning routine, getting the kids up and ready for school while also trying to get yourself and partner ready, when the rug is suddenly pulled out…
Toxic relationships include relationships with toxic parents. Typically, they do not treat their children with respect as individuals. They won’t compromise, take responsibility for their behavior, or apologize. Often these…
“In individual emotional development the precursor of the mirror is the mother’s face.” – D. W. Winnicott, Mirror-role of Mother and Family in Child Development When we look into someone’s eyes,…