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Book Review: The Friendship Cure: Reconnecting in the Modern World

People today are lonely. Even though people are wired to connect with others, many do not have the friendships they need. In The Friendship Cure: Reconnecting in the Modern World, Kate Leaver share stories and experiences about friendship in today’s world and why they are so important.

Our culture works against friendships. We are taught to build up ourselves as individuals and to be successful. As a result, we are unsure about how to truly connect with each other. It takes effort to prioritize people in our lives. Only until we are willing to put relationships above our professional success and ambitions are we able to fill the gap that only other people can fill.

Leaver brings in a lot of pop culture, referencing people like Taylor Swift and her “squad goals.” For some, Swift emulates the ideal, where people embrace other people in their personal circles. The implication is that other women can aspire to the same squad goals seen with certain celebrities. Although many of her stories are geared towards women, she does include a chapter about bromance, friendship between guys, in addition to a chapter about whether or not men and women can be friends, again referencing pop culture with the movie When Harry Met Sally.

She does discuss work friendships and how those can make an impact on how people feel about the workplace. It only takes one good friend to make an unpleasant job more appealing. But it is impossible for people to find that connection at work if they think of the workplace only as a professional environment.

There is also a consideration for online friendships. That notion does not have to be thought as weird as it once was. Being online makes it very easy to find new friends that have a lot in common. Yes, there is a lot of superficiality with loose connections on a platform like Facebook but these platforms could instead be viewed as a way to bring people together with common interests. It enables people to find others they would not necessarily come across in their day-to-day lives. Rather than critically viewing the internet as a tool that serves only to isolate us, it could be a technology that instead brings us together.

Leaver references some popular apps that have the clear goal of establishing friendships rather than casual connections. The opportunity is there to use technology to get people connected in real life.

Leaver also addresses friendship breakups. She shares stories of people who had to break up with a toxic friend and those who found themselves getting broken up with, resulting in both surprise and hurt when it happened.

The bottom line is that people are lonely and most everyone experiences loneliness at some point in their lives. Research demonstrates loneliness is a health epidemic. Loneliness can make us physically sick and produce medical symptoms. And living in a culture that is about success and personal ambition causes people to work more, resulting in less energy and time to connect with others, further increasing the feelings of loneliness.

Only towards the end of the book does she get into the mental health implications of the lack of friendships. She shared some of her personal experience, noting that depression comes, in part, from loneliness and that people need friendships for mental wellness. When people have friendships, they also have better physical and mental well-being.

The Friendship Cure is presented as a popular science and sociology book, which is appropriate. It is a look at friendship based on popular culture and the author’s anecdotes more so than scientific research. Those who have a general interest in friendship and enjoy pop culture references may enjoy The Friendship Cure. And perhaps it will help people understand how important friendship is, what friendships look like today, and the impact they have on mental health.

The Friendship Cure: Reconnecting in the Modern World
The Overlook Press, October 2018
Paperback, 304 pages

Book Review: The Friendship Cure: Reconnecting in the Modern World

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Claire Nana

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Nana, C. (2018). Book Review: The Friendship Cure: Reconnecting in the Modern World. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 15, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/lib/book-review-the-friendship-cure-reconnecting-in-the-modern-world/

 

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