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Stanley J. Gross, Ed.D

Articles by Stanley J. Gross, Ed.D:

  • Relapse Prevention
    17 May 2016

    Once you have made a change, how do you maintain it? What is the difference between a lapse and a relapse? How can you recognize when a relapse is likely? […]

  • How To Raise Your Self-Esteem
    17 May 2016

    Have you wondered about what self-esteem is and how to get more of it? Do you think your self-esteem is low? Do you know how to tell? Do you know […]

  • How Do You Get Your Needs Met?
    17 May 2016

    How do you respond to other people? Do you know the difference between assertion and aggression? Is it ever appropriate to be aggressive or submissive? Which style do you favor? […]

  • Getting What You Want Out of Life
    17 May 2016

    Have you wondered why some people are more effective in getting what they want than other people? What are they doing that makes them effective? What distinguishes them from people […]

  • Fostering Hope
    17 May 2016

    Before there is change, there is hope for change. Hope taps into yearnings to alter our lives, to realize our dreams, end our despair, assure our luck, achieve our desires, […]

  • Reacting to Threat: What’s Your Style?
    17 May 2016

    You and your partner are just not seeing eye-to-eye on a particular issue. What others might see as a difference of opinion instead feels like a personal attack and, if […]

  • Relaxation and Caring For Yourself
    17 May 2016

    What does it mean to be self-caring? What can we do for ourselves that will produce more energy, more satisfaction, and an alternative to all the addictive possibilities available to […]

  • Shifting from Conversation to Argument and What To Do About It
    17 May 2016

    It can happen in an instant: The transition from conversation to argument is often so quick and the reaction so intense that the parties can lose sight of what happened […]

  • Negotiating Immediate Differences
    17 May 2016

    The purpose of negotiation is to resolve immediate differences. These differences are concrete and situation-specific (for example, what movie to attend or who takes on what household chore). Immediate differences […]

  • Like Parent, Like Child: The Enduring Influence of Family
    17 May 2016

    Parents remain our touchstones even after death. They are both missing and present. So when I succeeded, I would glance sideways and see a snapshot of how my father handled […]

  • How To Fight Fairly
    17 May 2016

    From suburban parks to professional stadiums, team members follow pre-established rules when playing baseball or football. Boxing has the Marquis of Queensberry rules that turn what might have been a […]

  • Facing Enduring Differences and Getting to ‘We’
    17 May 2016

    Been there, done that, but keep doing it: These are the hallmarks of an argument involving an “enduring difference” between you and your spouse. Mary and Bill are typical; an […]

  • Acknowledging and Accepting Your Mate
    17 May 2016

    What sets the affirming couple apart from others? After all, most couples begin their relationship with a variety of shared, positive experiences based on their mutual attraction and emerging love. […]

  • Sobering Up: Recovery from Addiction
    17 May 2016

    What does it mean to be addicted? How do you get “clean” and sober? Is it possible to reduce cravings? Addiction and Habituation You are physically dependent upon alcohol or […]

  • What Is Stress?
    17 May 2016

    What makes some events stressful and others not? How can I know it is stress that I am experiencing, not anxiety or depression? What happens to the stress if I […]