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Bella DePaulo

Bella DePaulo is the author of How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century and Singled Out. Before she started studying single life, she published many articles on the psychology of lying and detecting lies.

Articles by Bella DePaulo:

  • Book Review: Still Alice
    11 Feb 2018

    Still Alice is a novel, not a work of nonfiction. Yet it probably offers one of the most accurate and gripping accounts of the experience of early-onset Alzheimer’s disease ever […]

  • Book Review: You’re the Only One I Can Tell
    06 Feb 2018

    When women bring up a problem they are having, men tend to jump in with ideas about how to solve it, whereas other women are more likely to commiserate. Different […]

  • Book Review: Writing for Bliss
    03 Dec 2017

    Ever since her mother gave her a journal at age ten to help her cope with the suicide of her beloved grandmother, Diana Raab has used writing as a way […]

  • Book Review: Welcome to Your World
    30 Nov 2017

    Students of psychological research have become familiar with a wide array of factors that play a role in how our lives unfold, including our personalities, upbringing, talents, motivation, social connections, […]

  • Book Review: Option B
    16 Oct 2017

    Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook and author of the bestselling book Lean In, was vacationing with her seemingly healthy 47-year-old husband Dave Goldberg when her life changed in an instant. […]

  • Book Review: Hunger
    30 Sep 2017

    Roxane Gay is the brilliant author of the New York Times bestseller, Bad Feminist. She holds a prestigious position as a contributing opinion writer for the New York Times. She’s […]

  • Book Review: This Close to Happy
    30 Sep 2017

    In the category of memoirs about depression, there are some distinguished contributions. They include, for example, Kay Redfield Jamison’s An Unquiet Mind, William Styron’s Darkness Visible, and Susanna Kaysen’s Girl, […]

  • Book Review: The Power of Meaning
    04 Sep 2017

    In The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That Matters, author Emily Esfahani Smith reports a telling statistic on the explosion of interest in happiness: By 2014, there were more […]

  • Book Review: The Nature Fix
    28 Jul 2017

    When journalist Florence Williams moved from Boulder, Colorado to Washington, D.C., she missed the mountains and her outdoor lifestyle. She felt “disoriented, overwhelmed, depressed,” and thought that a deficit of […]

  • Book Review: Behaving Badly
    02 Jul 2017

    In an introductory note to the readers of Behaving Badly: The New Morality in Politics, Sex, and Business, author Eden Collinsworth, a former business executive and media consultant, cautions that […]

  • Book Review: What Love Is & What It Could Be
    23 May 2017

    On the first page of What Love Is and What It Could Be, author Carrie Jenkins lets readers know that she is a philosopher and that she has both a […]

  • Book Review: The Undoing Project
    11 May 2017

    Michael Lewis, the author of Liar’s Poker, The Blind Side, and Moneyball is out with a new book that is already a bestseller: The Undoing Project: A Friendship That Changed Our Minds. […]

  • Book Review: Who Gets In?
    29 Apr 2017

    Among the most emotionally fraught issues of our time is the question of who gets in — and who should get in — to the most selective colleges in the […]

  • Book Review: How Does That Make You Feel?
    10 Mar 2017

    How Does That Make You Feel? True Confessions from Both Sides of the Therapy Couch is the ultimate tell-all book for our times. The people sharing secrets include psychotherapy clients, […]

  • Book Review: This Is Where You Belong
    03 Feb 2017

    Melody Warnick’s new book is about falling in love – with the place where you live. Warnick used to be what she calls a “Mover” rather than a “Stayer;” she […]

  • Book Review: Bad Feminist: Essays
    05 Jan 2017

    The title of Roxane Gay’s New York Times bestseller is Bad Feminist. But you don’t have to be any kind of feminist, or even have any interest in feminism, to […]

  • Book Review: America the Anxious
    01 Jan 2017

    Do you ever feel that the pressure to be happy is relentless and that it is bringing you down? If so, Ruth Whippman’s America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of […]

  • Book Review: The New Better Off: Reinventing the American Dream
    24 Nov 2016

    Courtney E. Martin opens The New Better Off: Reinventing the American Dream with the fact that “For the first time in history, nearly two-thirds of Americans do not believe that […]

  • Book Review: The Power of Mindful Learning (2nd Ed.)
    15 Nov 2016

    Harvard Professor Ellen Langer, who is sometimes called “the mother of mindfulness,” wrote a book called Mindfulness that was so significant, it was celebrated with a 25th anniversary edition. Now […]

  • Book Review: Retiring Solo
    27 Oct 2016

    In Retiring Solo: Plan to Be Happy, Healthy and Independent in the Years Ahead, entrepreneur Lori Martinek gifts readers with an upbeat, expansive and empowering guide to retirement and a […]

  • Book Review: Suddenly Single After 50
    26 Oct 2016

    One of the most popular books in the 1970s was called Everything You Always Wanted to Know about Sex, But Were Afraid to Ask. When I was in high school, […]

  • Book Review: The Power Paradox
    28 Sep 2016

    Want to understand power? Forget Machiavelli! For too long, argues Dacher Keltner, author of The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence, we have accepted unquestioningly the version of […]

  • Book Review: The Secret Life of Sleep
    25 Aug 2016

    Kat Duff’s carefully researched, engagingly written, and wide-ranging The Secret Life of Sleep is an ode to sleep. The author documents the contemporary preoccupation with productivity, alertness, and cheating sleep. […]

  • Book Review: A Mother’s Reckoning
    13 Aug 2016

    When a school shooting stops the nation in its tracks, and we all watch the coverage in stunned horror, I think first about the victims and their friends and families. […]

  • Book Review: Splitopia
    22 Jul 2016

    Wendy Paris knows what you think of her divorce. It’s what her friends thought when she told them she and her husband were splitting: “Neither my husband nor I like […]

  • Book Review: Why We Write About Ourselves
    02 Jul 2016

    Why We Write about Ourselves: Twenty Memoirists on Why They Expose Themselves (and Others) in the Name of Literature offers everything a reader might wish for from twenty diverse and […]

  • Book Review: All the Single Ladies
    25 Jun 2016

    Some books are not just books, they are events. Rebecca Traister’s All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation is among them. As I began […]

  • The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists & Rebels
    17 May 2016

    Psychotherapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson know that marriage is in trouble. Close to half of all marriages end in divorce. Growing numbers of adults are raising kids […]

  • Secrets from the Eating Lab: The Science of Weight Loss
    17 May 2016

    “The truth,” researcher Traci Mann writes, “is that diets do not work and may be bad for you, and obesity is not going to kill you.” That might surprise a lot of […]

  • Selfish, Shallow & Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids
    17 May 2016

    Not so very long ago, hardly anyone seemed to think deeply about whether to have kids. It was just what people did. Now, all that has changed. By 2004, the […]

  • Book Review: So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed
    17 May 2016

    We’ve all seen it happen, over and over again. Maybe we’ve participated, or maybe we just took it all in from the sidelines. I’m talking about public shaming, 21st-century style. […]

  • The Age of Dignity: Preparing for the Elder Boom in a Changing America
    17 May 2016

    Americans are facing a looming, undeniable crisis. The number of elders who need sustained help with the tasks of everyday life is growing rapidly, but the availability of people who […]

  • One Simple Idea: How Positive Thinking Reshaped Modern Life
    17 May 2016

    Mitch Horowitz believes that “one simple idea,” as he puts it, has reshaped modern life. But although he purports to give a history of that simple idea — the notion of positive thinking […]

  • Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own
    17 May 2016

    Kate Bolick, the forty-something author of Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own, has had a series of long-term relationships. She loved those men. In the relationships, she writes, she “found […]

  • The Nurture Effect: How the Science of Human Behavior Can Improve Our Lives
    17 May 2016

    No one knows who can fix all that ails our society: the poverty and crime and depression and addiction, the schizophrenia, the family friction, the corporate practices that make us […]

  • The Odd Woman & the City: A Memoir
    17 May 2016

    Vivian Gornick’s The Odd Woman and the City is a brief, beautifully rendered memoir by one of the premier writers of our time. Odd Woman is about solitude and friendship, […]

  • The Age of Scientific Sexism: How Evolutionary Psychology Promotes Gender Profiling & Fans the Battle of the Sexes
    17 May 2016

    Evolutionary psychology has offered a way of thinking about gender differences in sex, desire, and romance that has been tremendously influential. The standard narrative has infiltrated some of the most […]

  • Toxic Friendships: Knowing the Rules & Dealing with the Friends Who Break Them
    17 May 2016

    Both popular and scholarly writings about relationships are overwhelmingly about marriage and romantic relationships. Friendship gets short shrift, despite the fact that just about everyone has friends, and Americans (and […]

  • Better than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic
    17 May 2016

    Do you beat yourself up for not meeting your own high standards? Perhaps you try to avoid failing — even in small ways — at all costs. You brush off praise, while actually […]

  • Book Review: I’m Not a Mind Reader
    17 May 2016

    When two people are powerfully drawn to each other, yet end up repeatedly hurting and alienating each other, they probably have a problem communicating. Psychotherapist and professor Mary Babits is […]

  • The Opposite of Loneliness: Essays & Stories
    17 May 2016

    In the title essay from The Opposite of Loneliness: Essays and Stories, we read what Marina Keegan wrote on the eve of her graduation from college. At Yale, she wrote, […]

  • The Horse That Won’t Go Away: Clever Hans, Facilitated Communication & the Need for Clear Thinking
    17 May 2016

    Even the most impressively intelligent humans, left to their own devices, have wishes and dreams and the biases that come with them. There are things they want, with a passion, […]

  • On Silver Wings: A Life Reconstructed
    17 May 2016

    Suppose you are bicycling along the side of a road and a distracted driver barrels into you, sending you careening down a hill, your bones snapping and one of your wrists severed. […]

  • Book Review: The Psychopath Inside
    11 May 2016

    For years, neuroscientist James Fallon had been studying the brain scans of psychopathic murderers. As part of a separate study, he analyzed brain scans from members of his own family, […]

  • Book Review: Columbine
    05 Mar 2016

    Soon after Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold murdered twelve of their classmates and one of their teachers at Columbine High School on April 20, 1999, I bought a second TV. […]

  • Modern Families: Stories of Extraordinary Journeys to Kinship
    20 Feb 2016

    Joshua Gamson and his husband have two children. When the first child was just a baby, one question came up a bit too often when strangers saw the two men with […]

  • Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After
    01 Feb 2016

    If you are an introvert, that characteristic is just one part of who you are. Yet it can be a mightily important one. In Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way […]