People who score high on the disappointment scale are at greater risk of physical or emotional difficulties, or both. Such individuals appear to have a greater frequency of headaches, gastrointestinal difficulties, moist palms, and over-perspiration than those scoring low on this scale. For some, being very disappointed for prolonged periods of time can lead to chronic stress problems.
Disappointment results from thoughts and expectations being out of line with reality. Your expectations and hopes for others may be too high for the situation at hand. Even if you think your expectations are appropriate and realistic, they may not be realistic at all. One solution is to change your expectations to more realistic levels.
Some disappointments are actually predictable and preventable. Others are totally unavoidable. It is important to differentiate between the two so that you can respond appropriately.
Repeated disappointment may be the result of a pattern of faulty or irrational thinking. If you are frequently disappointed, evaluate what you are thinking and try to change faulty thinking patterns.
Shift your expectations
Expectations play a central role in disappointment and the resulting stress. Evaluate what you expect from family and coworkers. Check to see if your expectations are fair and reasonable. If not, change your expectations.
Determine if your disappointment is specific to one person or situation, or to almost all aspects of your life. By doing this, you will be able to focus your energies more effectively. Write down specific examples and look for the cause, not just the symptom, of your stress.
Ask others if they think your expectations are out of line with what is reasonable and possible. They may have a better or at least a different perspective. Listen to what they say and, where appropriate, make necessary changes.