In a world filled with unique people, all with individual needs and expectations, how can you develop a lasting romantic relationship with your partner?
Finding that special someone who complements your beliefs, goals, and quirks isn’t something that happens every day.
Sometimes, you have to date a number of people before you find someone you really mesh with.
When this happens, and you find someone you want to enter a relationship with, longevity isn’t something that’s promised. Even relationships that have a solid foundation can require conscious effort to maintain.
How do you maintain love in a relationship? You may want to consider these eight aspects.
You’ve probably heard communication is key in a relationship. This remains true, whether it’s in your romantic life, personal life, or professional life.
Communicating isn’t as simple as just talking about things, however. Everyone has their own communication style.
Being in a relationship can mean learning how your communication style works and how it compares to your partner’s.
You may need to explore alternative methods if you don’t feel you both communicate effectively when emotions elevate.
There’s a common saying that opposites attract. While this may be true in some areas of science, it isn’t always a sound relationship standard.
Yes, it can be important to retain your individuality while in a lasting romantic relationship. Who you are as individual people is what attracted you together in the first place.
Because of that, you’ll have differences, but having a common ground for bonding can also be important.
Spending time together doing something you both enjoy can solidify a friendship within your romantic relationship.
According to research looking at older couples in long-term relationships, companionship and laughter were among the most prized aspects of being with a partner.
If you never have a reason to spend time together, you may find you enjoy yourself most when you’re apart.
We all have quirks and traits we bring to a relationship.
Sometimes, how we behave and think may be heavily influenced by past experiences. These behaviors might make it challenging to stay in long-term relationships.
If you’ve had past partners who were unfaithful, for example, you might find it challenging to fully trust a romantic partner.
Understanding who you are and what behaviors you may need to manage can be an important step toward relationship longevity.
You’re able to change yourself — not someone else. It’s your half of the equation you can take care of. And that’s already 50% progress.
Being open with your partner about working on yourself may help, as well. “I’m working on (issue). Please be patient with me” can go a long way toward encouraging understanding. It might also motivate them to work on themselves.
The concept of showing appreciation, however, can be challenging. Saying “thank you” every 5 minutes when your partner does something can feel disingenuous.
Developing alternative ways to show appreciation may help keep a level of sincerity and can promote a sense of awareness for the things your partner does.
Feeling ignored can sometimes be worse than feeling like you’re just on opposite sides of a debate.
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Just as you can only manage your behaviors, your partner is responsible for what they bring to the relationship.
If your partner has experienced trauma or other situations that may influence their behaviors, they may benefit from professional guidance.
If they’re open to it, you may be able to act as a support network to encourage them to speak with a mental health professional.
Words are there to help us accurately convey our thoughts.
You may not actively think about it, but the way you say things matters, even if your partner might recognize a different underlying intent.
Saying, “Don’t be stupid,” when your partner does something absentmindedly literally implies they’re acting out of a lack of intelligence.
Intimacy, both emotional and physical, can demonstrate how important your partner is to you.
Emotional intimacy often involves sharing deeply personal thoughts, beliefs, and dreams. Physical intimacy tends to be a sexual or affectionate physical expression of the bond you share as a couple.
There’s no single recipe for success when it comes to lasting romantic relationships. But building fulfilling bonds is possible with a little effort and intention.
While we all have basic relationship needs such as affection, security, and acceptance, how these needs are met can vary from individual to individual.
Appreciation, for example, may present through affection. Acceptance might develop through open communication and self-esteem building.
If you feel you have common ground with your partner but just can’t put your finger on what’s missing, couple’s therapy may be a good place to explore your relationship dynamic.