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The Science of Love: 9 Ways Being in Love Affects Your Personality

Couple in loveFrom boosting happiness to making you less judgmental, here’s how head-over-heels transforms you.

Love makes us all walk around like giant goof balls. We’re smiling for no reason. We’re asking people how their days are just so they’ll ask us back and we can sigh and say things have never been better. It makes us wake up in the morning and want to get out of bed and want to say hello to the brutal morning and want to be the greatest version of ourselves.

But as great as it makes it, it also makes us crazy.

It makes us pick up the phone and call someone 67 times on repeat until they answer and stop ignoring you (guilty), or say I’m sorry and I love you more times than you’d like. It makes us change our hair colors, how we occupy our free time and if anything, it changes our personalities.

This isn’t something I’ve learned by observing the people around me — most of whom are engaged or married — or even observing myself, sometimes, when I find myself all googly-eyed over a guy that makes my heart rise and fall to the beat of an Avicii song, it’s become a fact. It’s also been the center of attention in a lot of recent studies.

1. You’re A Combination Of Happy And Anxious
You may ask how it’s possible to feel happy and anxious at the same time. But when it comes to being in love, really, any and all feelings at once is very possible. According to a study in LiveScience, a person can feel happy when they’re in love, but they can also feel anxious. Isn’t that something?

2. You’re Addicted
If you’ve ever categorized love as an addiction you just can’t kick, according to WebMD, you may just be correct. It releases a feel-good chemical, similar to another other addiction that creeps into our lives.

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3. You’re Capable Of Taking More Risks
No matter if the person you love is two door down or two countries away, Medical Daily, says that that “addiction” we feel because of love makes us more driven to take risks in order to get to that person.

4. You’re Over-The-Top Overprotective
A recent study from Florida State University found that love can make a person overprotective of his or her partner.

5. You Can’t Focus
If your mind begins to dance around in circles and even focusing on something ordinary makes you crazy, blame it on your love. Being in love interferes with your brain’s ability to stay on task, says a study from the University of Maryland.

6. You’re Confident
To put it more simply: Love helps us to tackle life with more confidence instead of seeing things pessimistically straight away, says ScienceDaily.

7. If You’re Neurotic, You Become Stabilized
A recent study published in the Journal of Personality assessed how love has long lasting effects on personality and discovered that negative thinking can be unlearned. After studying people considered to be neurotic, depressed or anxious researchers discovered that they become more stable in a loving relationship.

8. You Don’t Judge
Wonder why your guy is so supportive of everything from your career choices to how you handle a disagreement with a friend? Brain scans show when someone is shown a photo of the person they adore, the part of the brain responsible for judgement, the frontal cortex, shuts down and they suspend all criticism or doubt.

9. You’re Smarter
Your brain on love is an intelligent one. Being head over heels triggers the brain’s dopamine center, which boosts cognitive and motor skills. In one study, subjects stared at a computer as names flashed across the screen quickly, and when the name of their significant other appeared, their ability to perform difficult tasks improved drastically.

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This guest article originally appeared on Science Of Love: 9 Ways Being Infatuated Alters Your Personality.

The Science of Love: 9 Ways Being in Love Affects Your Personality

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Experts, Y. (2018). The Science of Love: 9 Ways Being in Love Affects Your Personality. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 1, 2020, from
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Last updated: 8 Jul 2018 (Originally: 30 May 2014)
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