Even before the nationwide lockdowns, there were far too many people in the U.S. with not enough to eat. The pandemic has exacerbated that disturbing reality. More single than married people are suffering. Single people typically have far less money than married people, for a variety of reasons included discriminatory practices written into the laws of the land. But the big financial disadvantage of unmarried Americans is not the only reason they are more likely to go hungry.

Unmarried People Are Less Likely to Have Enough to Eat than Married People, Regardless of Whether They Have Children

Since April, the Census Bureau has been conducting a weekly Household Pulse Survey to learn how people are faring during the pandemic. The number of participants varies each week, but as an example, for the week of June 11-16, more than 1.2 million households were sent invitations to participate by email or text message, and more than 73,000 responded.

During the week of May 14-19, participants were asked, In the last 7 days, which of these statements best describes the food eaten in your household? They were classified as not having enough food if they selected sometimes not enough to eat or often not enough to eat.

For adults with no children, there was a striking difference between those who were and were not married. Four percent of the married people said they did not have enough food. More than three times as many single people, 13%, said the same thing.

Not Enough to Eat: Households with No Children

4% married, no children

13% not married, no children

For those who did have children, the married-people households were again more likely to be spared from hunger. Ten percent of those households did not have enough to eat. More than twice as many single-person households, 22%, did not have enough to eat.

Not Enough to Eat: Households with Children

10% married with children

22% single with children

Participants were also asked whether they were worried about the coming month. They were classified as confident about food going forward if they said they were either moderately or very confident that their household would be able to afford the kinds of food they need in the next four weeks.

Comparing the married and unmarried households without children, more married people than unmarried people thought they would be fine, 79% compared to 65%.

Confident They Would Be Able to Afford Food in the Next Four Weeks: Households with No Children

79% married, no children

65% not married, no children

For the households with children, two-thirds of the married couple households thought they would be able to afford the food they needed in the coming month. The single-parent households were by far the most vulnerable: fewer than half, 46%, felt confident that they be fine in the next four weeks.

Confident They Would Be Able to Afford Food in the Next Four Weeks: Households with Children

67% married with children

46% single with children

Why Did the Unmarried and Married People Go Hungry?

The Institute for Family Studies (IFS), a reliably pro-marriage group, drew from the data from the Census Bureau survey in their report of the findings described above. They also explored the question of why the single people were more likely to go hungry.

In the Census data, the unmarried people, on the average, had lower incomes, less education, and were more likely to have lost a job during the pandemic. But even when the IFS took those factors into account (by statistically comparing married and single people who were equivalent on those factors, as well as other factors such as age, gender, race, and number of children), the single people were still more likely to say that they were going hungry during the pandemic.

In the Census survey, participants were shown a list of possible reasons for why they did not have enough to eat. The IFS described the responses only for households that included children and only if they did not have enough to eat in the previous seven days. (Participants could check more than one reason, so the percentages add up to more than 100.)

The most obvious answer they couldnt afford to buy more food was by far the most important answer. An identical percentage of married parents and single parents, 80%, gave that answer.

Also equally important to both the married and unmarried parents was the available selection of food. An identical 20% of both groups said, the stores didnt have the food I wanted.

There was one reason married parents gave more often than single parents, 20% compared to 15%: Afraid or didnt want to go out to buy food. It would have been interesting to see those two components answered separately. Did married-parent households more often go hungry because they just didnt want to go out to buy food?

Two of the reasons were more often endorsed by single parents than married parents. More of the single parents said they couldnt get out to buy food, 14% compared to 8%.

More of the single parents also said that they couldnt get groceries or meals delivered, 10% compared to 6%.

Those were the only answers described by the IFS. But they were not the only dynamics explored in the Census survey.

Implicit in the IFS article, I think, is the suggestion that the people in married-couple households are less likely to go hungry because married people are more virtuous than single people. Marriage, they said, clearly plays an important role in protecting children and families from hunger. On my copy of the article, I crossed out marriage and wrote in discrimination.

Is More Free Food Available to Married than Unmarried People?

When it became apparent early on in the COVID-19 lockdown that many people were going hungry, I explored opportunities to donate to local organizations addressing that problem. The first two I considered, a food bank and one other, only described programs for children and families and seniors on their websites. I contacted both organizations to ask whether they helped single adults who could not afford food but were not parents and were not seniors. One never answered my multiple inquiries. The food bank assured me that they did make their food available to single adults.

I made donations to the food bank for a few months. Then when I went to their website a few days ago, the only donation button was for a program to provide lunches to children. I think thats a worthy program, but I wanted the food I was paying for to be available to single adults, too. I contacted them again, and they provided me with a work-around.

Apparently, my experience was not a fluke. The Census Bureau reported some intriguing findings from their Household Pulse Survey that the Institute of Family Studies did not mention:

Although they were more likely than married self-employed individuals to report insufficient food, single self-employed individuals were less likely to receive free groceries or a free meal.

For example, in states where businesses were hardest hit by the pandemic, only 8.9% of self-employed single adults had received a free meal or free groceries in the previous week. Nearly twice as many self-employed married people, 17.2%, had received free food, even though a smaller percentage of married than single people were going hungry.

If hearts go out more readily to children than adults, thats understandable. But why are married people more often the recipients of largesse than people who are single? Single people have less money than married people; if they live alone, they do not benefit from the economies of scale, so their expenses are proportionately greater; and they do not have the income of a spouse as a back-up if they get laid off, if their hours are cut, or if they lose their jobs.

Digging Deeper and Taking Action

In Baltimore, Maryland, Ellen Worthing was noticing some of the same kinds of examples of possible singlism in food distribution that I had observed in Santa Barbara, California. But she went after the issue far more systematically than I did. She researched the many food distribution options in her area and who was served by each one. She figured out how many households were left mostly unserved by those programs. She also studied relevant legislation. Then she did something remarkable she made her case to the relevant officials and persisted until changes were made.

For months, she had been telling me her story informally as it developed. I asked if she would write about her experience for Unmarried Equality and other interested readers, and I am so grateful that she agreed. I will share her guest post soon. (Here it is.)

[Note: This post was adapted from a column originally published at Unmarried Equality (UE), with the organizations permission. The opinions expressed are my own. For links to previous UE columns, click here.]