Last Sunday, I — like most of the modern world — woke up to the news of what’s now being called the “deadliest mass shooting in U.S. history.” 29-year-old Omar Mateen gunned down innocent patrons of Pulse, a popular gay nightclub in Orlando, murdering 49 people and injuring 53.
Like so many others around the country and other parts of the world, I sat transfixed in front of my television, crying, and just asking, “Why?”
So much horror, anger, violence, fear, and sorrow.
Not long into the broadcast, reporters began interviewing some of the many — and there were many — people who’d lined up to donate blood and volunteer in any way they could.
They just wanted to help. There were so, so many of them.
It reminded me of a lesson Mister Rogers taught us years ago. It’s a quote that’s been passed along a thousand times over, and for good reason:
When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’ — Fred Rogers
I’ve gone back to this quote time and time again over the past week, to remind myself. There are good people. There are helpers. Remember they exist. Remember to look for them. Remember to be one of them. This is advice not only just for children, but for all of us.
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