As you read this, I’m hanging with friends in a cabin snuggled in the middle of snow-covered mountains, and I don’t feel one bit of guilt about it.
Last week, I mentioned I was extremely busy with a work project. I was scrambling to finish the work (and still provide quality results) because it’d gone on too long. The project was a bigger beast than I’d anticipated, and it took three weeks longer to complete than I estimated.
So, for roughly three weeks, I stayed glued to my laptop, which physically and mentally drained me. I didn’t workout, I didn’t go out with friends, and because of this perceived “lack of time,” my diet (i.e. the foods I ate) started to suffer.
However, I didn’t take any steps to change anything — to take any time for myself outside of showering and going to bed — because I didn’t want to feel guilty.
Fortunately, I finished the project Wednesday and the sense of relief was overwhelming. Not only did I finally feel accomplished, but I knew my weekend trip to the mountains wouldn’t be tainted with worry and guilty.
Should I have felt guilty about going on the trip if I hadn’t yet completed the project?
Emily Goh Yi En, a psychology major a currently works at the digital marketing agency Cats Insights, offers some helpful insight about irrational guilt related to taking a break from work and three solid reasons why we must stop feeling guilty for resting. Check it out if you’ve struggled with this problem!
Now, onto Psychology Around the Net! This week’s edition includes information about the link between personality and well-being, areas of the brain linked to bipolar disorder, mantras that can help you become calm and confident, and more!
How to Talk to Your GP About Your Mental Health: For some people, talking with their general practitioners about their mental health might seem as daunting as talking to family members, friends, or co-workers. That’s why Mind has launched a new campaign: Find the Words. Find the Words is designed to help patients talk to their general practitioners about their mental health, as well as help general practitioners find support for themselves, too.
Area of Brain Linked to Bipolar Disorder Pinpointed: Researchers at the University of Texas Health Science Center at Houston report they have linked bipolar disorder to reduced volumes of subfields in the brain’s hippocampus — an area of the brain that deals with our moods and memory processing.
5 Mantras to Help You Become Calm and Confident: According to Sherianna Boyle, author of Mantras Made Easy, “Mantras are a way to clear up negative actions, opening up new pathways for positive ones.” Check out five of Boyle’s favorite mantras for achieving inner peace, beating anxiety, finding happiness, and more. (BONUS: The Chopra Center does a nice job of explaining mantras — the word’s origin is interesting! — and how they differ from intentions.)
Mental Illness Is Rampant In American Jails And Prisons: “Prisons are not equipped to manage the seriously mentally ill. Health care of any kind in most American jails and prisons is substandard […] mental health care, if available at all, is often limited to one or a few very overworked mental health professionals who are unable to focus beyond whether a patient (or prisoner, as it were) is going to commit suicide in the near future,” says Christopher Zoukis, founder of PrisonEducation.com.
The Real Link Between Personality and Well-Being: Check out 11 dimensions of well-being (including self-acceptance, personal growth, and life satisfaction) and the five personality traits (or, “personal paths”) that can help us more easily achieve higher levels of well-being.
This Miss Universe Contestant Shut Down Body Shamers Like a Queen: The 2017 Miss Universe competition, airs Sunday, Jan. 29 at 8 p.m. ET on Fox. If you’re not into that sort of thing, you might be into how Siera Bearchel, this year’s Miss Canada, has responded to body shamers: “While I am first to say I am not as lean as I was when I was 16, 20, or even last year, but I am more confident, capable, wise, humble and passionate than ever before […] This is the side I am trying to bring to the @missuniverse competition.”