In this episode of the Psych Central Show, hosts Gabe Howard and Vincent M. Wales talk about friendship. Specifically, why we find it so much more difficult to make friends as adults than when we were young. Among the points covered is the fact that not everyone has the same definition of “friend.” Also discussed are the various pools of people available to us as friends and the ways in which we meet them. Most pertinent, though, is the major difference in how children and adults tend to determine who is worthy of being a friend. (Hint: kids might have a better grasp on it.)


“If I met somebody tomorrow, it would be years before I shared some of the intimate details.” ~ Gabe Howard

[1:25]   What do we really mean by “friends”?

[5:15]   Do adults focus on different things when seeking friends?

[7:05]   How do we change how we disqualify others as friends?

[9:52]   Do we fragment our friendships in our personal lives?

[10:51] Friends vs. friendly acquaintances.

[12:57] The difference in how adults and kids find “groups.”

[16:49] The (unrealistic?) expectations of adults.


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About The Psych Central Show Podcast Hosts

Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar and anxiety disorders. In addition to hosting The Psych Central Show, Gabe is an associate editor for He also runs an online Facebook community, The Positive Depression/Bipolar Happy Place, and invites you to join.  To work with Gabe, please visit his website,




Vincent M. Wales is a former suicide prevention counselor who lives with persistent depressive disorder. In addition to co-hosting The Psych Central Show, Vincent is the author of several award-winning novels and the creator of costumed hero Dynamistress. Visit his websites at and