World of Psychology


4 Reasons Why Appearance Matters in Relationships

Talking about appearance is a touchy subject.

No one wants to be judged solely by the way they look, nor should they. Attractiveness is defined by many things that go beyond the superficial. That being said, there are certain things about appearance that are quite important.

No matter how shallow it sounds, looks do matter, but not in the way you may be thinking. No one is suggesting that you need to be a Size 2 or have biceps like the Hulk. And even if you are nearly the perfect physical specimen, there are a number of less obvious things that can take your attractiveness quotient down several notches.
Best of Our Blogs

Best of Our Blogs: December 7, 2018

I'm reading a phenomenal book by Dr. Joe Dispenza called, "Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing the Uncommon." There are so many pearls of wisdom in it and statements full of hope for anyone suffering from physical or mental illness. So far, this is one of my favorites:

"The only thing I can assure you of is this: The unknown has never let me down."

Dispenza says we often get stuck in the same routine, ways of thinking, and feelings that keep us in the past. The way to change is to open up to the unfamiliar, putting your attention on how you want to be versus what you don't want and accepting change even if it comes with discomfort.

If you're ready to make positive changes, our top posts this week will show you how to begin making better decisions, build better boundaries and recognize signs of narcissistic teasing and abusive behavior.

The Psychology Behind Instilling a Sense of ‘Home’

Home can be your childhood roots and the pizzeria around the corner. Home can be the house you grew up in and the familiar sights, sounds, tastes, and smells that are as familiar to you as the sun rising each day and setting each night. It can be the physical place you reside and the community it bestows. 

Home can be the conversations with loved ones at the dinner table about anything and everything. It can be talking with your friends over a cup of hot tea or coffee. It can be vacations we adored and memories we will always cherish. It can be places that become a part of us.

Portion-Control in Social Media? How Limiting Time Increases Well-Being

“Today, spend a little time cultivating relationships offline. Never forget that everybody isn’t on social media.” – Germany Kent
If you find yourself anxiously checking the posts of your social media contacts to see what’s going on in their world and can’t seem to curb the urge to stay riveted to your feed, new research on the negative effect of too much social media on well-being may be worth your time to review. ((Caveat: If you’re addicted to Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat, this research may not pique your interest, but those closest to you – friends, loved ones and family members – may find the information relevant and timely. Perhaps they can even exert some influence to get you to change your social media habits.))
Borderline Personality

Podcast: Growing Up With a Mentally Ill Parent

Growing up with a mentally ill parent can be a traumatic experience for any child. For Ally Golden, her mother’s mental illness was major depression, later diagnosed as borderline personality disorder. Ally’s book, A Good Soldier, chronicles her life growing up in this environment, with a mentally ill mother who frequently threatened suicide, and the psychological trauma that resulted for her. Decades later, her mother carried out her threat. Listen to hear Ally’s fascinating story.

Does America Need Therapy? Our Nation’s Curious Resistance to Gun Reform

Does America need therapy? I don’t know about you, but I am perplexed by the millions of Americans who each and every day, continue to disregard facts, reject scientific proof, obstruct progress and deny the truth about a lot of things. This massive group also includes many of our supposedly best educated and well-informed politicians. What’s going on here?

The popular wave of anti-intellectualism rolling through Washington is no longer merely pervasive -- it’s aggressive. And lately it has overtaken the usual rhetoric we’ve come to expect from the conservative side of the chamber. Especially in the last few years we have seen open-mindedness and critical thinking be replaced by a fanatical embrace of ignorance.
Children and Teens

Expert Strategies for Taming Your Toddler’s Tantrums

As the parent of a toddler, you are all-too familiar with tantrums. They’re part of the landscape of your day. Maybe they happen at the same time every day. Maybe they feel random. Maybe it’s a bit of both.

Either way, they’re exasperating and draining.

And they also can be jarring—thanks to your toddler’s seemingly endless ear-splitting sobs and screams. Which, of course, stresses you out even more.
Holiday Coping

The Joys of Solitude and the Power of Silence

Our world is a busy place these days. There is hustle and bustle everywhere you turn. And, for many, it's only going to get busier now that we are in the holiday season. There are work parties and family get-togethers, parades, concerts, cookie exchanges, and the list goes on.

Even when you aren't physically with people, it can be difficult to find solitude and quiet. With modern technology, we can stay connected to others at all hours of the day. By simply logging on to social media we can have hundreds of "friends" at our fingertips and plenty of ways to connect with strangers too. But, is that really what we need?