World of Psychology

Anxiety and Panic

How Meditation Can Make You Happier

Despite many of us in the modern world enjoying a level of comfort and luxury that would be been unimaginable for most of human history, we still find it very hard to be happy. In fact, it seems that modern society is contributing to our fatigue and discontentment -- with high-pressure working lives, decreased sense of community and a perceived lack of meaning all causing strain.

As much as we may struggle, however, the pursuit of happiness is still the primary goal for most people. While it would be trite to suggest that meditation can solve all our problems, there are reasons why it can help us achieve this goal.

The Authentic Self Versus the False Self

In my new book, Live True: A Mindfulness Guide to Authenticity, I write that it is the present moment that matters the most, and if we value the moments of our lives, we will want to make the most of each one, and not let any moment go by without having lived it as truthfully and authentically as we can.

But what does it mean to live “authentically”? The definition of authentic is “genuine” and “real,” or in other words, the combination of all your true qualities and characteristics. However, I like to describe authentic as “living your truth in the present moment.”
Children and Teens

Creating a Family Culture Around Emotional Self-Regulation

Most of us know a family that speaks a foreign language at home. Children in these families can switch seamlessly between the language they speak with their parents and the one they speak with their peers, teachers, and other adults. This facility with multiple languages benefits children in numerous ways, including in being able to navigate a multicultural world.

When I’m working with parents whose children struggle with emotional self-regulation, I try to frame self-regulation as a type of language that takes time and effort to learn and master. As with a foreign language, the key to helping children strengthen their self-regulation skills is to foster an immersive environment in which they can practice, make mistakes, and ultimately grow. To this end, I encourage families to practice self-regulation together.
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Best of Our Blogs: February 12, 2019

Navigating life with chronic illness can feel like a full-time job so much so that you can neglect a very important piece. Self-care.

But I'm not talking solely about the basics like making sure you eat the right food, drink enough water and get enough sleep.

I'm talking about fun.

If you spend any time with children, you know play is a serious matter. Play is how they explore the world and practice the things they learn.

Just because we're not kids anymore, doesn't mean fun isn't important. It plays an integral role in our emotional wellness and mental health.

So as you're planning your week, make sure to incorporate activities that you enjoy doing. Things like singing, gardening, hiking, and jumping on a trampoline, that has nothing to do with winning or succeeding, and do it just for the fun of it.

Dispositional Mindfulness: Noticing What You Notice

“Only this moment is life.” - Thich Nhat Hanh
Many forms therapy and spiritual practice speak of mindfulness. Dispositional mindfulness (sometimes known as trait mindfulness) is a type of consciousness that has only recently been given serious research considerations.

It is defined as a keen awareness and attention to our thoughts and feelings in the present moment, and the research shows that the ability to engage in this prime intention has many physical, psychological, and cognitive benefits.

8 Ways to Instantly Feel Empowered to Face an Upcoming Challenge, A New Opportunity or a Tough Day

You’re about to ask for a promotion at work. You’re about to ask for a raise. You’re about to resign from your 9-to-5 to start your own business. You’re about to take a step toward expanding your business. You’re about to give a speech.
You’re about to have a hard conversation. You’re about to say 'yes' or say 'no' to a significant opportunity. You’re about to advocate for yourself—which is something you’ve actually rarely done before.
And you need to feel empowered. Because right now you feel anything but empowered or confident or capable.
Children and Teens

How & Why I Encourage My Teens to See a Therapist

Everyone needs a good therapist, that’s my personal opinion anyways. We are comfortable taking our cars for occasional tune-ups, and we regularly scan and update our various devices to ensure that they’re in good working order -- so why not do the same for our mental health?

That’s why I encourage my teens to see a therapist. I want them to understand that going for counseling is healthy, positive, and beneficial. I don’t want them having a completely outdated mindset that only crazy people need therapy.
Anxiety and Panic

Frequent Problem Behavior in Your Child? This Might Be Why

Having to deal with problem behavior in your child can leave you feeling frustrated and helpless. But what if this behavior was sparked by anxiety?

A number of studies have found that children’s inability to process difficult emotions often leads to what commonly comes across as “problem” behavior. This may look like uncontrollable tantrums, unpredictability and impulsiveness, extreme clinginess, an inability to do what is expected (for example, an inability to follow simple instructions in school or at home), developmental difficulties, uncontrollable anger, extreme reactions, defiance and aggressive or dangerous behavior that puts your child or those around him in danger.
Grief and Loss

7 Ways to Let Go of a Past Love

According to Oscar Wild, “the heart was made to be broken.” Few experiences are as painful as severing the ties with a romantic partner -- even if you’re the one who initiated the breakup. Your world may feel groundless, colorless, meaningless. However, a heartbreak can also inspire surprising self-growth and gift you with a sense of independence and vitality that you didn’t know what possible.

Often tears fertilize the seeds of self-transformation and nurture a new self that needed to be discovered. “The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it,” said Nicholas Sparks. Here are a few strategies to begin the healing process.