Holiday Coping

How to Love Valentine’s Day When You’re Not in Love

There is so much hype around Valentine’s Day every year. Red and pink everything, in every store, and all over the internet. Don’t get me wrong…I LOVE Valentine’s Day! But what about those years when I wasn’t in love, or didn’t have a significant other to share it with? I wish that someone would have given me some ideas on how to celebrate myself, and some  ideas to experience self-love and self-compassion. Well, that’s exactly what I’m here to do! You don’t have to be in love or have a significant other to enjoy Valentine’s Day. And not only that, but Valentine’s Day could be any day to be able to show yourself some love and compassion.
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Best of Our Blogs

Best of Our Blogs: February 14, 2017

It's the day most of us dread. We're either alone and can't stand the roses and chocolate reminders or we're coupled and can't stand the pressure.

I think Valentine's Day represents something we all struggle with. Rejection.

A slight whether professional or personal is a multi-layered sucker punch to the soul. There is, of course, the initial disappointment. There is the underlying recall of past disappointments, which usually stem from childhood. And then, there is the fear of what this rejection means for our future.

In a moment of despair, one rejection can feel like a reminder of our past failures, which could threaten our future happiness.

Yet, it could also be a really downer moment that in the near future could be the best thing.

Years later, it could be the day you changed something for the better and altered the course of your life-in a good way. Although we don't know the way our lives will unfold, we can control our attitude. Through resilience, we can let the rejection teach us like an old wise friend who's not afraid of telling us the truth. If we listen after we've healed our egos a bit, we might just empower ourselves to turn rejection into victory.
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Brain and Behavior

How Brain Training Can Boost Confidence


Confidence is an attractive and necessary quality to succeed in business, relationships, and life. But, it is a subjective and, sometimes, misunderstood characteristic. From the painfully shy to the arrogantly over-confident, what makes people think and feel what they think and feel about themselves? The authors of a new study report that they have uncovered brain activity patterns that are associated with confidence. And, what’s more, they say that people can be trained to have more confidence.

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Children and Teens

6 Ways to Bond with Your Stepchildren

Step-parents have a tough job. Getting on with your new spouse’s children is absolutely essential for a harmonious life together -- but where to start?

Entering into a blended family situation is challenging for everyone, but it can be especially confusing for children. Their idea of “home” has been turned upside down. They may feel lost, angry or abandoned. There’s no question that step-parents have a delicate and difficult role to play.
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Habits

10 Steps to Becoming More Self-Aware

Self-awareness is the foundational block of building many other healthy habits because it’s the ability to become introspective, observe yourself in a meta-cognitive level, and make the changes you desire!  If you are prone to metaphors, you can think about it as the first layer in making a delicious quiche, which is the well-formed bottom crust. When forming a quiche from scratch, the crust is hardened separately and before any of the filling is added. That way it forms a firm foundation for the things to be layered on top!
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Marriage and Divorce

Stop Comparing, Start Enriching Your Relationship

Once the winter holidays are over, the stores can’t seem to help themselves. Valentine’s Day red and decorations hit the stores right after New Year’s and the spotlight gets turned on to our relationship. With the big day looming, many people start to think: “Is our relationship wonderful enough? Romantic enough? Supportive enough?” “Am I glad I’m in the relationship I’m in?” We may find ourselves trying to keep up with the metaphorical “Joneses” who seem to be more affectionate, more mutually helpful, and better at managing conflict than we are.
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Publishers

What Do You Really Crave When You’re Lonely?


Starting now, you really can stop being lonely.

I’ve struggled with feelings of loneliness my whole life. It’s a big part of why I decided to become a relationship coach. I wanted to understand why some of my relationships felt more substantial than others. I wanted to understand why sometimes I relished being alone, while at other times being alone evoked feelings of profound sadness.

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Exercise & Fitness

The Forgotten Five-Minute Mindful Mood Booster

It happened again today. I forgot to go outside.

I don’t mean I completely forgot to go outside, but I forgot to do my Five-Minute Mindful Mood Booster.

Green Exercise

Ever since I discovered the research that showed that the first five minutes of light exercise in nature delivers the biggest mood booster of time spent outside, I realized what a realistic mindfulness practice it is for even the busiest person.
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