World of Psychology

Children and Teens

To Others Who Have Experienced Trauma as Children

Most of us have real anger and suffering living inside us. Perhaps in the past we were oppressed or mistreated, and all that pain is still right there, buried in our store consciousness. We haven’t processed and transformed our relationship with what happened to us and we sit there alone with all that anger, hatred, despair and suffering. If we were abused when were young, every time our thinking mind goes back over that event, it’s like we’re experiencing the abuse all over again.- Thich Nhat Hahn
The #MeToo movement, including Dr. Ford’s testimony on the Senate floor in 2018, was an eye-opener for many of us. Even though I personally had experienced sexual assault and figured others had too, I was not prepared for the staggering number of brave women and men who publicly came forward to share their experiences of pain and violation. I also wasn’t prepared for the amazing feeling that this movement could actually change the climate that our daughters and sons grow up in.

The Health Benefits of Staying Organized: An Interview With John Linden

Ever since I moved into my very own office -- away from the dirty laundry and magazine piles of my home office in the bedroom -- I’ve been studying the relationship between space and productivity/mood. As I organize my files, hang paintings, and eliminate the first threats of clutter, I am paying special attention to what promotes health and creativity and what destroys it.

Interior designer John Linden knows this subject well. He is a nationally recognized designer of mirrors and other wall décor and is the editor of

Free Live Webinar: Who Are You Dating? Learning About Our Patterns

(Please note: This free live webinar will be recorded and a copy made available to all who register.)

So, who have you been hanging out with lately?

Think about the last person you dated. Have you been dating the same unhealthy type each and every time only packaged a little differently?

Have you thought that this time it looks promising, only to be surprised when it didn’t work out again?
Best of Our Blogs

Best of Our Blogs: March 19, 2019

Many of us grew up feeling a sense of inadequacy, a lack of self-worth. Maybe it's because our parents were critical, neglectful or we felt different in some way. As we grew older, we developed illnesses that only added to the problem.

Instead of a feeling of not enoughness that's hidden, our chronic illness makes our imperfection, our lack of wholeness evident.

But none of that matters when it comes to measuring your worth.

It takes time and work to recover what you lost in childhood and recalibrate after you received a diagnosis. But it is possible to learn to love and accept yourself when you realize that nothing you do or don't do equates with your self-worth. Our posts this week echoes the sentiment, helping you to retrain what you believed, let go of the belief that something is wrong with you, and teach you how to accept yourself.

When Your Recovery Is Frustratingly Slow

It seems like you’ve been ill forever. For weeks, maybe months, it has felt like a major effort to do life. On a good day, you might muddle through. On not so good days, it’s hard to get out of bed, much less shower or get to work.

Major mental illness has knocked you down and out. Worse, it seems like you aren’t getting any better.

Don’t Force Gratitude

In his book What Happy People Know, Dan Baker argues that you can’t be in a state of appreciation and fear, or anxiety, at the same time. He explains:
During active appreciation the threatening messages from your amygdala [fear center of the brain] and the anxious instincts of your brainstem are cut off, suddenly and surely, from access to your brain’s neocortex, where they can fester, replicate themselves, and turn your stream of thoughts into a cold river of dread. It is a fact of neurology that the brain cannot be in a state of appreciation and a state of fear at the same time. The two states may alternate, but are mutually exclusive.

Learn How to Resolve & Release Emotional Pain

How can empathetic people let loose the burden of other people's emotions?

When your body has disease, illness or painful conditions, suppressed (somatized) emotion can exacerbate symptoms and escalate deterioration or decline. In my last article, I shared a practice for identifying and acknowledging emotional energy to avoid suppressing it into the energy system of the physical body.

Wearing the Inside Out: Meaningful (Dis)connections

When used for purposes of knowledge acquisition, information sharing, and community involvement, no one would debate the idea that social media can have an enduring positive impact our lives. However, with every scroll, click, like, and share, the digital debris that we collect and store on our internal ‘hard drive’ has a way of leaving its indelible mark on our psyche.

And therein lies the bane of our socially mediated existence: Our desire to connect with the energies that make us feel whole and inspired lead us down the social media rabbit hole, yet we come up feeling incomplete, discouraged, and blah. We find ourselves on the path to digital self-destruction.