World of Psychology


How to Listen to Yourself—Especially If You’re Really Out of Practice

When was the last time you listened to yourself?

That is, when was the last time you checked in with your thoughts and feelings? When was the last time you expressed an opinion? When was the last time you considered your needs and actually met them?

When was the last time you said yes and actually meant it—you genuinely wanted to attend that get-together or take on that project or do that favor?

So many of us don’t listen to ourselves—and with good reason. Ignoring and dismissing our thoughts, feelings, and needs can be adaptive in certain situations—particularly in childhood. According to New York City psychologist
Grief and Loss

Managing Grief After Suicide

September is National Suicide Prevention Month. Suicide is a choice, and for many who decide to take their lives, it’s a way for them to escape a profound level of pain that they may or may not have revealed to their loved...
Inspiration & Hope

Forgiveness as a Self-Healing Tool

Surely, some things can never be forgiven, should never be forgiven?

Susie was 48 years old, and came for counseling for burnout in her highly responsible job. It took three sessions before she trusted me enough to tell me her story.

Thirty years before, a man had brutally raped her. She’d spent three weeks in hospital, and has physical handicaps from it to this day. The court hearing was even more traumatizing. He showed no remorse. His story was that she’d initiated contact, invited sex, then backed out at the last minute, hitting him and scratching his face, so he defended himself, and “um... went a little too far.” He was let off with a slap on the wrist.

Are You Preventing Your Kid from Being a Bully?

School bullying has probably been around as long as there have been schools. At one time, it was even seen as an unavoidable, maybe even important, fact of life. Bullied kids were told to tough it out as a way to learn to be strong. Bullies were ignored or even encouraged. But the last decade or two has seen a shift in public attitude from denial of the negative impact of bullying to concern. News of suicides of some young victims, murder of at least another, and school shootings perpetrated by those on the receiving end of constant belittlement and humiliation have brought the issue to national attention. 

5 Surprising Ways to Make the Most of Therapy

Therapy tends to be mysterious and confusing, because it’s one of those things that until you experience it for yourself, you’re not really sure what to expect. Which makes it that much harder to know how to make the most of it.

It also means that we rely on sources like movies and shows to fill in the information gaps. It also means that we rely on our preconceived notions, cultural beliefs, or other experiences—such as going to see the doctor. And that can sometimes lead us astray.

This is why we asked two seasoned therapists to share actionable strategies readers can use in their sessions to build on and bolster their experience. Below are five surprising and vital ways you can make the most of therapy.
Marriage and Divorce

Married Doesn’t Mean Codependent: 10 Ways to Maintain Autonomy

You can be strong on your own.

If you're wondering whether you're codependent or believe that you're in a codependent relationship, then it's time to recognize why you're doing the codependent behavior and put a stop to it.

Asking yourself, "Am I codependent?" means you've witnessed choices or actions you made that lead you to believe you're behaving in an unhealthy manner. And now you want to know how to stop being codependent, either to fix your relationship, feel better about yourself, or just be happier and more confident in life overall.

Facing Mental Health Stigma

People who are dealing with mental health conditions often face a whole other challenge: mental health stigma. As if living with a mental health condition isn’t often challenging in and of itself. 

But what is mental health stigma? It’s when others unfairly (and unwisely) say that mental health conditions are the fault of the people experiencing them. It’s when people (yes, even friends and family) label people with mental issues as “weak” or describe them with other negatively charged terms. It’s even when people downright discriminate against others who they deem “different” due to their mental health conditions.