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Top Obstacles in Life
Not everyone consciously confronts the following three obstacles in life, but we all encounter them in one way or another. In other words, if you are not consciously aware of these life obstacles, they still affect you.
As human beings, we all mature physically from childhood to adolescence and then into adulthood, but our emotions lag behind. ~ Bernard Sumner
You know the saying: Everyone gets two chances in life, one in childhood and one in adulthood. The theory is if you had a bad childhood, you can turn it all around with a new lease on life in adulthood.
Seems simple enough, right?
Why, then, do so many people struggle to make the transition to adulthood? Why is this one of the biggest obstacles in life? You have to consider the emotional lag of childhood to understand this one.
Signs emotional lag is an obstacle in life for you:
You behave immaturely
You feel helpless, powerless, etc. even though you do have choices
You cant control your behavior
You get into arguments, etc…when they are avoidable
You blame others for your behavior and feelings
In short, when you consistently act immature and dont take responsibility for yourself
These are signs that, even though youre the age of an adult, emotionally you are still clinging to childhood. In other words: your emotional age does not match your chronological age.
If you feel you have work to do to become an emotional adult, thats good to know – and you are not alone. You might begin to study how to grow yourself up.
Hell is other people.~ Jean-Paul Sartre
Many of our relationships leave in their wake a trail of resentment, anxiety, jealousy, resentment and overwhelm. This is damaging. In fact, a bad relationship can slowly kill you. Among the most common obstacles in life, difficult relationships are often all about boundaries. When we dont know how to set clear boundaries, we take things personally, cant say no, give our power away, and remain frustrated where other people are concerned.
Healthy boundaries typically clear all this up. We could essentially redefine this obstacle in life as simply the challenge of setting boundaries. Unfortunately, learning boundaries is more or less an individual pursuit, as most parents dont consciously teach their children how to set them, or anything about the concept.
When you have clear boundaries, you can:
Say “no” when you want or need
Not take things personally
Show compassion for others
Give and require respect from others
Honestly assess what youre capable of doing
Control your own emotions
Stop worrying about things outside of your control
And so on.
Getting to the point of having clear boundaries is a process that takes time, study, and patience with other people who have grown used to your fuzzy boundaries. Theyll need to adjust.
Boundaries resource: Where To Draw the Line.
You cant imagine just how much believing in negative thoughts is affecting your lifeuntil you stop. ~ Charles F. Glassman
Getting in your own way; your own worst enemy; looking for trouble; there are lots of ways to casually define self-sabotage. This may be the universal cause of human suffering; the most pernicious of the obstacles in life, as most of what makes us feel bad is self-inflicted.
When you feel rejected, most often the person rejecting you did not intend to hurt you.
When you feel left out, most of the time you do have a viable opportunity to connect with someone.
Feeling empty on the inside can be shifted to fulfillment by doing something you love – or simply remembering to be grateful for what you have.
The problem is, we are quick to interpret the negative and hang onto it. We stew in it. We cant just let it go. While this is far from necessary, it is habitual. Why?
How come we make the wrong choice so often, even when better options are available. Many of us even fear the right choice, as if something bad would happen if we did whats in our best interest.
For example: Youre in a group of people and want to speak up and make your opinion known. This is a problem for you – keeping quiet and letting others determine the direction of conversation or agenda. Yet, when you would like to speak up, you are seized with fear, or shut down, almost as if youre protecting yourself. In the end, you feel as you typically do, powerless or helpless or not involved.
This is how self-sabotage works. The feelings involved are often so familiar that we fear stepping out of them into a more empowered place. Self-sabotage is a comfortable place. Some people call this sticking with the devil you know.
Leaving these kinds of self-sabotaging patterns behind requires learning how self-sabotage works in the unconscious so you can own the process and make new choices. This free and enlightening video is a good place to start.
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