Lets start the new year on a positive note!

Even though nothing magically changes on January 1st, most of us like the idea of a fresh start. And the start of a new year is a natural time to look forward to think about what matters most to us, identify what we want to focus on, and set goals or intentions for the new year.

But lets face it. its easy to get pulled off course to fall back into old patterns of behavior and thinking. So, Ive written 20 reminders or affirmations for 2020 to help you keep a positive mindset and specifically to reinforce the themes of this blog:

  • Building self-esteem and a strong sense of who you are
  • Reducing codependency
  • Increasing self-acceptance
  • Treating yourself with loving kindness
  • Forming healthy relationships
  • And generally feeling good about yourself

These affirmations are meant to be quick reminders of where you want to focus your time, energy, and thoughts. Our thoughts influence our feelings and actions, so when you find yourself struggling or getting off track, you may find it helpful to read these affirmations and refocus on your goals and your reasons for wanting to make positive changes.

  1. I can do hard things. I can overcome obstacles, figure things out, and persevere.
  2. My life isnt perfect, but there is always something to be grateful for. Noticing what I have and whats going right in my life helps me feel hopeful and motivated.
  3. My feelings and needs are valid. I dont have to justify them.
  4. Speaking up is a form of self-respect.
  5. I deserve the same love and compassion that I give to others.
  6. I am setting boundaries for my own wellbeing, not to control or punish others.
  7. Baby steps add up to big changes.
  8. I dont expect perfection from myself or anyone else. I accept that we all make mistakes.
  9. I am not responsible for how other people feel or act.
  10. Its not selfish to take care of myself.
  11. Stepping out of my comfort zone is an opportunity for growth.
  12. Resting when Im tired is not laziness; its restoration.
  13. Play and fun are not a waste of time. Having fun can nourish my spirit, body, mind, and relationships.
  14. Ending or limiting relationships with toxic people is an act of self-care. I will do so thoughtfully and without guilt.
  15. I am empowered to make my own choices and do whats right for me, even if others dont agree or support me.
  16. Criticizing or punishing myself wont help me to be a better person. What I really need is more self-compassion.
  17. I will not focus on trying to control, fix, or change others. I accept that I can only control myself.
  18. I am inherently worthy of love and respect. My worth isnt based on other peoples opinions, how much I accomplish, how much I weigh, or any other criteria suggested by popular culture.
  19. I cant control everything that happens to me, but I can control my responses.
  20. I trust myself. I trust my intuition, my judgment, and my ability to care for myself.

Which affirmations resonate most with you? What other affirmations will you add to your list for 2020? Feel free to share your ideas in the comments.

If youd like to print a copy of these affirmations, you can download a PDF from my Resource Library (sign-up below for access).

Wishing you a happy and growth-filled new year,


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