Finding the Source of Your Fears
Knowing what is causing your fear and anxiety can go a long way toward finding the solution. Below are some suggestions.
1. Self-evaluation. A person can find the source of his or her own fears by doing some self-evaluation and also by talking to a professional. Asking yourself questions such as: “Why am I afraid?” or “What is causing my anxiety?” will lead you in the right direction.
2. Determine a solution. Once you find the true source of your fears, the next step is to find the solutions that will solve your problem. With the help of a professional, write down a list of possible techniques and solutions that you think will manage your fear and anxieties. Then apply the techniques that you uncovered.
3. Challenge your negative thoughts. When encountering thoughts that make you fearful or anxious, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity and common sense.
4. Be smart in dealing with your fears and anxieties. Do not try to tackle everything at once. When facing an anxiety-producing task, break the task into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increase your chances of success.
5. Learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide you with different opportunities to learn new things. That includes learning how to deal with your problems. When the time comes, hopefully you will have learned the skills to deal with your situation.
6. Get the facts. Sometimes we encounter scary, upsetting situations. When encountering these events, always remember to get all of the facts of the given situation. Gathering the facts can prevent you from relying on exaggerated and fearful assumptions. By focusing on the facts, you can rely on what is reality and what is not.
7. Learn from experience. In every anxiety-producing situation you experience, begin to learn what works, what doesn’t work, and what you need to improve on in managing your fears and anxieties. For instance, you have a lot of anxiety and you decide to take a walk to help you feel better. The next time you feel anxious, you can remind yourself that you got through it the last time by taking a walk. This will give you the confidence to manage your anxiety the next time around.
Many people try to get rid of their anxieties and fears without taking into consideration why they are afraid. The best way to get rid of your fears is to find those techniques that will manage the true source of your fears. If you can do this, then you should be able to overcome your fears and anxieties.
Popovich, S. (2018). Finding the Source of Your Fears. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 8, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/blog/finding-the-source-of-your-fears/