Feeling Flow in Funny Places
In therapy, I often coach and encourage clients to find activities in which they can fully immerse, find their form of joy, feel reenergized to task, and manage other life challenges more confidently. There are naturally the traditional activities that might be discussed in therapy as possible arenas for finding flow, e.g., meaningful work, exercise, hobbies or social connections; however, explaining to clients the mindfulness involved in finding flow can sometimes be challenging. This seems to be more difficult for those individuals who haven’t had as many positive flow experiences, yet these might be just the individuals who might benefit most.
The longer-lasting benefits are certainly promising. Flow is said to allow health to flourish, protect against depression, diminish anxiety and assist in coping with life’s adversities. But the process can be difficult to teach. Orienting to opportunities for possible positive flow can provide the best opportunity for learning.
For some clients, disorders or symptoms often have been so all-consuming that they have lost touch with their senses and with joy. In fact, they may have felt as if they were immersed in a rather flawed sense of flow with their particular thoughts, feelings or behaviors. The time subsumed in symptoms or obsessions has left little energy for anything else; it is no wonder that those who travel far enough along the recovery road do sometimes find themselves with a sense of emptiness.
To build a fuller, richer life, there often is a need to focus on unearthing the positive. For some individuals, recovery truly is a time of rediscovering life activities and goals which had been pleasurable in the past. For others, seeking out new activities, hobbies or life goals is a novel but essential experience. Most individuals must eventually begin figuring out what they love and who they are without their symptoms or unhealthy behaviors.
One exercise that I have found to be helpful to a number of clients is one I call the “5 Senses Activity.” I heard of it long ago in the context of a workshop on assisting trauma survivors with nightmares. I wish I could more properly credit the inventor of this technique, but he or she has remained anonymous for me (as that portion of my memory bank doesn’t seem to be as easily accessed as the cow dung memories).
The simple exercise involves having a person list, mentally or on paper, 5 things she or he loves in each of the 5 senses. This can sometimes be effective with individuals who are trying to fall asleep after a nightmare, as it allows slightly more concentration than counting sheep but less mental acuity than counting backwards by sevens. It also orients to the positive, never a bad idea for someone plagued by horrible images. I have found that the exercise also can be effective for myriad other issues, such as assisting with relaxation, distraction or anger management.
Tuning into the five senses within daily routines can bring forth feelings of love, enjoyment, happiness, and contentedness. It allows a recharging of sorts, with the simple things in life.
Hearing pleasant sounds has the ability to bring us instant stress relief, whether the pleasure of hearing talented teens practicing their music in the hallway, the comfort of hearing leaves rustling on the sidewalk or the liberation of your work voicemail message mechanically announcing, “You have no messages.”
Finding visually appealing things that you love to look at may appear easy at first, but engaging fully into the sensation requires some concentration. It takes time and practice to closely examine or carefully observe the things that bring you joy, whether this involves looking differently at someone you love, feeling a spark of hope when your favorite shower stall at the gym is available or appreciating the landing skill of the birds outside of your office window.
Opportunities for touch thrive all around, from textures to temperatures. There is also the bonus bimodal dimension to touch: We are able to receive touch, such as feeling warmth from the sun, and we are also able to reach out for touch, such as feeling flower petals.
Taste is a complicated sense which can nonetheless evoke many positive emotions. True tasting almost always requires eating and drinking at a slower, mindful pace. Letting the chocolate melt on your tongue or picking out the spices in that special dish require more focus than most of us generally invest in our daily meals.
In seeking out smell, we tend to be most aware of this when eating; however, natural aromas in our environment abound, if we choose to pay attention.
It continues to amaze me how intentional awareness can allow us to connect, to find peace, to relish a moment and to thus feel recharged. Tapping mindfulness and finding flow somewhere can be an important part of recovery and of rejuvenation for anyone. It can come to us suddenly and unexpectedly; indeed, it may be that the unpredictability of it allows for a more meaningful, if transitory, experience.
But being receptive to the simple sensations of daily life and being open to the opportunities is essential for all of us: Finding flow, like the whiff of a scent on the wind, can be found in some very funny places.
Wartski, S. (2018). Feeling Flow in Funny Places. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 22, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/blog/feeling-flow-in-funny-places/