What do others think about me? Will that person be mad at me because of something I said? They will be so disappointed in me if I don’t excel in my work… and so on.
A highly sensitive disposition can keep you up at night and busy with thoughts like these every waking moment.
In general, care for your feelings and others’ opinions is not only normal, but good. It enables you to connect with people at a heart-to-heart level and express empathy. The problem arises when you are “too much” in touch with your emotions.
Having a highly emotional disposition can make life harder. It attracts labels and remarks such as “You’re so sensitive!,” “Now what did I say to upset you?,” “Talking to you is like walking on eggshells!,” “Why can’t you just snap out of it?,” “Can you not care so much about what that person said to you?” and so on.
Such remarks usually come from people who look like they don’t have a care in the world. They handle their feelings well; they look confident and happy. They just don’t understand why it is so hard for some to let go of their emotional baggage.
It doesn’t have to go to this extreme. If others’ opinions matter to you more than you would like, read on.
You never know what will upset a highly sensitive person. This sensitivity comes in varying degrees. Some people may be more sensitive in a particular area, such as their looks or their financial situation.
Someone of this nature often overreacts to situations, ruining precious relationships in the wake. Even the slightest remark can be taken out of context and blown up into a big issue. Intense emotions are bubbling just underneath the surface.
High sensitivity also can be a gift, however. A highly sensitive nature comes with many perks – empathy, creativity, deep thinking, keen observation skills and the ability to feel passion like there is no tomorrow.
But the price of high sensitivity is high sensitivity.
If you think it must be difficult to live with a person like this, think about how difficult it can be to be one. I know that well, because I am one — or at least used to be.
Anything and everything said to me seemed to affect me personally. Part of it was because of the value system I was taught as a child and some of the life experiences thrown my way then. My inherent disposition contributed the rest.
I noticed that my mind perceived any emotional upset, big or small, as a threat. That caused my response to be blown far out of proportion for any situation. A huge turnaround came when I stumbled across an energy psychology method known as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
Energy psychology is based on the premise that our whole body is a latticework of energies. Allowing a free flow of energy throughout the body can have positive effects on our physical, emotional and mental well-being.
EFT is said to work by dissolving energy blockages when you tap on certain acupressure points. This method has been shown to bring relief from stress, anxiety, repetitive thinking, compulsive behavior and a multitude of fears and phobias.
With the use of these techniques, I started to understand how I could train my highly sensitive brain to respond more suitably to any situation.
My confidence soared. I started to relate better to my surroundings. My relationships became deeper. My mind opened up to many possibilities that were had been hidden under those overflowing emotions. When we understand how much our physiology affects our psychology, we start to feel more compassionate about our sensitive nature.
I cannot emphasize enough how greatly incorporating certain energy psychology practices into the daily routine has helped my super-sensitive disposition.
Here is an example. Gently placing your hands on your forehead increases the blood flow to the forebrain, thereby engaging the logical part of you. That quickly helps you to calm down your panic response, and you can think past the emotional overwhelm. Try it right now and you will feel the difference.
Energy psychology techniques such as meridian tapping, specifically Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), are becoming more mainstream as people look to alternative ways to handle daily stress.
These techniques have an almost instant calming effect. Additionally, such exercises build immunity to stress over time, so that one no longer feels drained from every little incident.
This is not to suggest that you become emotionally callous and start ignoring your feelings or those of others because you start using these techniques. You start to respond with greater awareness – not snapping at people out of the blue, or breaking down all of a sudden, and not getting bogged down with emotional overwhelm. That increases your confidence because you now control your responses instead of reacting haphazardly. When the mind is no longer tied up in processing emotional overload, it becomes free to envision creative ideas, reach out to people, and make a unique mark in the world.
Energy psychology is a powerful tool to bring balance to our emotional well-being. Although it and EFT tapping are being used by millions of people around the world, it is nonetheless prudent to keep your medical practitioner informed of any alternative therapies you may be using in conjunction with your prescription medication.