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Count Your ‘Lessings’

badnewscrpdYou’re exhausted from listening to the news describing, in ever greater detail, the latest horror in the world. Yes, you know that if it bleeds, it leads. But still, an unending supply of tragedy and disaster leaves you with a wish to be anesthetized.

You’re worn out from trying to get him (or her) to change. You’ve said what bothers you about his behavior a thousand times and yet, he does as he damn well pleases. He’s willing to sell his future and your future down the river because he can’t be bothered to change his ways.

You’re disgusted with yourself. Some days it seems as though all you do is work, worry and wrestle with anxiety. Other days, it seems as though you’re immersed in cleaning, cooking and complaining. You don’t like who you have become. As your emotions bubble up, you find your own feelings frightening and those of others foreboding.

Haven’t you experienced every one of these ugly situations (or similar ones) at some point in your life? Haven’t you wished there were a way to make them go away so that your life would be better?

There are no simple solutions to complex problems. Yet, sometimes there is something simple that makes things better for the moment. When you are wishing things could be better, count your lessings.

No, that’s not a typo. And no, there’s nothing wrong with counting your blessings. Indeed, that’s a good thing to do. But, remember too, to count your lessings. What are you experiencing less of?

It’s now six weeks post-surgery since I severed a nerve in my left hand. Do I still experience pain, numbness, stiffness and tingling in my fingers? Yes, indeed. But it is less. Less intense, less frequent. And for that I am grateful.

The world’s horrors will always be front and center when listening to the news. How can you count your lessings? Remind yourself that, despite the heartaches you read about, we are still living in an age in which we’re safer, healthier, richer and living far longer than previous generations ever dreamed of.

People we are close to can push our buttons. They don’t change just because we want them to. Count your lessings. Though there is no end to the dimwitted things he (or she) could do, he’s doing fewer of them than he used to. Remember too, that though his behavior can be annoying, his flaws are forgivable. (If they’re not, that is an entirely different matter.)

There are days in which you don’t like who you have become. Just scrape the surface and your nastiness emerges. So, how do you count your lessings when the pessimist in you believes that nothing is right? Be less critical of yourself by relaxing, remembering, revamping.

Take a deep breath and relax. Create less tension in your mind and body, even if it’s just for a few moments. Let yourself be who you are without judgment, without criticism.

Remember everything you like about yourself. Appreciate all the ways in which you have grown, in which you respond to situations in a better way. Remind yourself that you are a kind soul with a beautiful mind.

Know what makes you flourish. Then revamp your day to bring more of those pursuits, people, and passions into your life.


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Count Your ‘Lessings’

Linda Sapadin, Ph.D

Dr. Linda Sapadin, psychologist, success coach and author is proud to announce the publication of her new book, Overcoming Your Procrastination: College Student Edition – Advice for 6 Personality Styles available on Amazon. Now more than ever with remote learning, this book is a must-have. If you’re a perfectionist, dreamer, worrier, crisis-maker, defier or please, grab your copy. No longer a student? Get my book How to Beat Procrastination in the Digital Age – 6 Change Programs for 6 Personality Styles. Visit to subscribe to my free e-newsletter. Contact her at

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Sapadin, L. (2018). Count Your ‘Lessings’. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 30, 2020, from
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Last updated: 8 Jul 2018 (Originally: 30 Apr 2015)
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