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The Basics of Self-Love


“It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others.”
– Sidney J. Harris


It is very difficult to find a loving partner if you don’t love yourself. Yes, love. Love means acceptance, compassion and a general positive, even affectionate feeling about who you are. Finding unconditional love from someone else is almost impossible. Everyone has some conditions. But acknowledging and deserving unconditional self-love is the basis for having a loving adult relationship. Why? Because you can’t expect others to love you if you don’t.
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Brain and Behavior

Why You Shouldn’t Give Up on Your New Year’s Resolutions

The time-honored tradition of making New Year's resolutions is deeply rooted in our modern culture. Perhaps because when it is a new year, we feel it's a good time for us also to be renewed. We can change. We can become a better person.

Somewhere between 40 and 50 percent of people make New Year's resolutions (American Medical Association, 1995; Epcot Poll, 1985). But how many people actually keep at least one of their resolutions?

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Holiday Coping

One New Year’s Resolution a Couple Can Make Together

Maybe you’ve already made a resolution or two for the New Year. Have you and your partner ever made one together? Choosing one that you’re both likely to keep can do wonders for your relationship. One is the key word, because keeping it simple makes it more likely that you’ll both follow through.

Any relationship, no matter how great it already is, has room to grow. So instead of thinking, “Were fine,” think “The sky’s the limit!”
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Holiday Coping

How to Stress Less While You Travel

For most people, traveling is always synonymous with lots of stress. Whether you’re traveling for business, taking a vacation, or going to see your relatives and friends, there are simple steps you can take today to actually reduce the severity of your stress levels on your next trip. The following tips can help turn what would have been a stressful adventure to one that is looked forward to with anticipation and ease.
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Exercise & Fitness

6 Mistakes that Will Sink Your New Year’s Resolutions

It’s that time of year again: The beginning of a new year. All around you, people are talking about resolutions they will make to be healthier and happier. Sadly, most of those promises for self-improvement will quickly be a memory. Research shows that 80% of New Year’s resolutions are broken by the second week of February.

“But this year will be different”, you say to yourself. “This year, I really want to lose weight, stop smoking, take a class, jog every morning, whatever... This year I just know I’m committed to it.”
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Creativity

A Different Take on New Year’s Resolutions

We tend to set resolutions that punish us for the things we did the previous year. For instance, because we supposedly ate too much or gained weight over the holidays, we decide we’re going on a diet, we’re cutting out sugar, and we’re eating “clean.” We decide we’re going to lose 15 pounds by some arbitrary date. Or we decide to work out five days a week—no exceptions, rain or shine or sickness. Or we decide we're going to hustle and work 70 hours a week because we took too many breaks.
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Health-related

5 Quick Yoga Moves to Beat Holiday-Induced Stress

The holidays, while synonymous with joy, can also be a time of unremitting stress. With all the to-do lists to check off, last minute guests arriving, challenging family conflicts, unrealistic hosting duties, commuting/traveling, there is every reason to get stressed out -- and sick in the process of stressing out -- during this time of year!

All you might be wishing for is for some semblance of normalcy to kick in after the New Year. You are not alone!
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Family

Love Them Forever

“If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them.” – James O’Barr

With the holidays in full swing, along with party planning, gift buying, meal preparation and such on top of regular responsibilities, it may seem that little time is left for personal reflection. But when all the noise and activity cease, those quiet moments may prompt intense feelings of
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Agitation

‘Tis the Season to Stop Being Passive Aggressive

The first time I heard the term “passive aggressive,” someone used the term to describe me. I was in graduate school and was 23-years-old. This was back in the 80s. It was thesis time, and I had to type mine on a computer in the Iowa State Department of English computer lab. All the PCs were taken, so I politely asked a woman I didn’t know approximately when she was going to be finished typing. I think I said something like, “Do you have a lot to do? Will you be much longer?”
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General

Podcast: Surviving Christmas (and Other Gatherings)

In this episode of the Psych Central Show, hosts Gabe Howard and Vincent M. Wales tackle Christmas. Specifically, how to survive it. For all the wonderful aspects of holidays, they are not without stressful aspects, especially for people who live with anxiety or depression. In this podcast, you’ll learn about some specific triggers that can make the holidays stressful, and how to mitigate or even avoid them. Such triggers include being alone over the holiday, false expectations we seem to have, toxic people, and the stress that comes along with our bank statements. Listen in to hear some helpful suggestions, and have a safe and happy holiday season.
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