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Best of Our Blogs: March 20, 2018

I bet you think you're a weak person. You suffer from an illness and feel your vulnerability if not daily, moment by moment. You can't just shrug off a look, disappointment or bad news the way a friend can. This makes you feel super sensitive, temperamental or even weak.

It makes sense to think this way. And yet, those who struggle are amongst the strongest warriors in the world. Think about war veterans. Think about the neighbor's daughter who is physically ill, but emotionally strong. Think about how much you've overcome.

Wearing your heart on your sleeves may seem like a sign of weakness. But it's what makes you emotionally strong. It's your resilience that pushes you to persevere through all the oodles of challenges you face every day.

As we begin this week, you'll read what really defines weakness and emotional strength. It just may surprise you.
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Best of Our Blogs: March 16, 2018

Maybe it's because you grew up in a critical household or suffered from your own or a family member's illness. But you've always felt a secret insecurity, self-doubt or a feeling that something's missing. You weren't given a whole pie of worthiness, which is why feedback makes you cringe.

How do you improve your life when you're afraid of the criticism?

You work on yourself first.

Whether it's through changing your diet, creating clear boundaries, or understanding the toxic people in your life, to be successful you need to believe you're worthy of health, love and a lasting relationship.
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Best of Our Blogs: March 13, 2018

What do headaches, car accidents and more internet surfing during work hours all have in common? I just read that they increase during Daylight Saving Time. If you're still recovering from the loss of an hour, I feel you.

Even though I live in Hawaii where we don't observe Daylight Saving Time, I used to live in places that did. It took me days to shake off the grog.

The good news is there are also benefits to more sunlight during the day as mentioned here. And while you're enjoying the longer days, check out our top posts this week providing information on anxiety, narcissism and difficult family members (don't we all have at least one?).
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Best of Our Blogs: March 9, 2018

As I write this it's International Women's Day. How can we do more than just turn it into another commercial holiday?

This blog post shares ways we can start by changing our attitudes about women especially mothers.

A few months ago, someone asked me what I did for a living? When I said, "I take care of my son," he seemed surprised and a little embarrassed for me. I was shocked by his response.

And yet, it's not that surprising is it?

We still have a long way to go when it comes to change. Change is not easy for us human beings. But I'm certain that by healing our own wounds it will inevitably change the way we value and view all women.
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Best of Our Blogs: March 6, 2018

Is there something in your life you wish you could change, but you just can't right now?

Maybe it's a job situation or relationship you need to end.

Secretly, you're beating yourself up about it. You want something better but obstacles keep getting in your way.

It's okay. Before every big change is the preparation stage which sometimes includes small steps, a pause, time for grieving for what was, and space for the next phase to take place.

As you'll read this week, writing a story, pursuing an interest and reading about narcissism and the silent treatment can lead you toward change.

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Best of Our Blogs: March 2, 2018

How is it March already? Weren't we just drawing up resolutions for the new year?

With spring around the corner, it's a great time to check in and do a little early (emotional) spring cleaning. Brush up on the newest research studies, and understand some of the most powerful narcissists in your life with our top posts you missed this week.

Want to know whether your preschooler will always be aggressive? And how do you really stop that narcissist from bamboozling through your life? If you're currently recovering from narcissistic abuse there's a lot of hope for you. One blogger this week shares how there's a spiritual component to suffering from narcissism. Also, did you know you could be saying certain things to your partner that could be permanently damaging your relationship? Just keep reading to get a head start on cleaning that emotional clutter.
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Best of Our Blogs: February 27, 2018

We save certain situations as lesson worthy. Things like actual classes, and big changes from relationship beginnings to its end. But every situation can teach us something.

A stomach ache could teach us to be careful about what we eat.

A headache could remind us that rest is just as important as accomplishing.

An annoying neighbor could provide an opportunity to test our patience, acceptance and the ability to be kinder to ourselves.

You don't have to wait for an illuminating seminar or session with a coach to improve your life, you can start with every area of your life. Let our top posts on childhood neglect, the need for approval and your relationship with emotions inspire you to tackle those life lessons.
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Best of Our Blogs: February 23, 2018

In Sound True's Insight at the Edge podcast with Gabrielle Bernstein, she explains a thought-provoking view-that judgment is a form of addiction, something that starts with a temporary high and ends with an emotional hangover.
"I think I can see for myself, before doing this process I felt justified in my judgment. I felt like they were protecting me. It was a false sense of protection. But when I really started to dig into it, I could see how detrimental the behavior was, and how it was really bringing me down. The reason I believe that judgment is an addictive pattern is that the same way we would use drugs, or alcohol, or work, or sex, or love—to project out, to do something, to anesthetize a deep-rooted wound or discomfort."
This applies to everyone we judge from our neighbors to politicians. The next time you catch yourself judging your partner or yourself, stop and think about why you're being triggered, what are you most afraid of and what can you do to enact positive changes in your life.

Our top posts on behaviors you shouldn't put up with, ways you're avoiding change, how to adopt positive behaviors and coping skills are all tools to refocus your attention on things you can work on instead of resorting to judgment.
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Best of Our Blogs: February 20, 2018

Thank you Sunny Hostin for expressing what I haven't heard many people in the media say.

If you watch The View, you might have caught the co-host's response to the Florida shooting. She said we can't continue to blame the shootings on mental illness and contrary to what many believe, mentally ill people are often victims of crime.

Thank you Sunny and all the other people in the media including this blogger and all our bloggers this week for promoting truth.

If we want to spread awareness and understanding, start with posts that provide an accurate picture of mental illness like our top posts this week on obsessive compulsive personality disorder, being highly sensitive, and the scapegoated and emotionally neglected child.
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Best of Our Blogs: February 16, 2018

At some point in your life, you ran into someone with an illness.

The problem is you know and like them. You might even love them. But this thing you don't understand is causing cracks in your relationship, and it's hurting you.

You have two choices.

You can leave the relationship or you can find ways to work through it. You just can't do it alone. That's why you're here and I'm glad. It's a good week to tune in. We've got posts on dealing with difficult people, signs you should say goodbye to that toxic person in your life and how to nourish yourself especially when you're a highly sensitive person.
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Best of Our Blogs: February 13, 2017

Valentine's Day is coming up. It's the holiday many of us have a love hate relationship with and that's understandable.

When I was single, I dreaded it. The heart-filled, chocolate covered day, only seemed to remind me of how alone I felt. I remember being in high school walking around empty-handed as I watched everyone around me filled with excitement about the gifts they got.

I didn't love it that much more when I found my husband. It was just another reason to spend money on ways to prove my worth as a partner.

Along the way I realized that these were just other people's expectations of what one single day meant. And I could choose to go along with it, but I could also opt out. It was the relationship I had with myself that was most important.

Before you're saturated with Valentine's paraphernalia, read up on our top posts which will inspire you to transform the commercial holiday. Whether it's learning how to brighten someone else's day or heal your own childhood issues with neglect, it's a reminder that you can make Valentine's Day whatever you want it to be.
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Best of Our Blogs: February 9, 2018

It's that time again. Flu season.

We get flu shots and take other preventative measures to avoid catching it. But it got me wondering how much effort is spent protecting our ongoing emotional health.

Things like getting enough rest, seeing a doctor, and healing your past are all essential to keeping our mental health in check. Why not spend as much energy on protecting it as you do your physical health during flu season?

You can start by reading ways to tackle insomnia (who knew sugar cravings could signal inadequate sleep?), how to effectively heal a broken heart, and to feel, not just numb your emotions with food, drinking and online shopping.
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