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Best of Our Blogs: October 7, 2016

Unhappy And Sad WomanThere’s something running rampant in the world that can explain strife, depression and general unhappiness. I would argue that that something is self-hatred.

It’s all the horrible things we tell ourselves when we’re succeeding and failing that’s responsible for our dis-ease with life. In Uninvited, author Lysa Terkeurst explains it this way: “Negative self-talk was a rejection from my past that I had allowed to settle into the core of who I am. I talked about myself in ways I would never let another person. Hints of self-rejection laced my thoughts and poisoned my words more than I cared to admire.”

Part of the reason why negative self-talk is so insidious is we don’t see our thoughts as separate. We see it as truth. In Insights at the Edge, author and Mountain View Zen Center and the Zen Monastery Practice Center founder Cheri Huber says, “The most difficult part for people is that they think that’s who they are! So when people are listening to a voice in their head say, “You are so stupid!” they don’t realize that they are listening to a voice that’s calling them “you.” They think it’s them just thinking. When a voice kicks in about “I can’t believe that she—” or “What a miserable—,” that kind of conversation, they think it’s them, and feel bad for those thoughts.”

To end this week, our bloggers explain where those negative voices come from and how to stop listening to it. Have a great weekend!

4 Questions Every Child of an Unloving Mother Asks
(Knotted) – You were physically cared for, but your emotional needs went unmet. At one point in your childhood, you probably asked yourself one of these painful questions.

Five Minutes A Day To Greater Happiness
(Cultivating Contentment & Happiness) – There is a simple exercise you can do to change your mood. It could be the habit that transforms you into a permanent optimist.

The Relationship Between Depression And Sleep
(Coping with Depression) – Learn what medical conditions cause insomnia and why you’re at risk for developing depression if you can’t sleep.

What is a Healthy Relationship?
(Happily Imperfect) – In order to have a great relationship, you need a good template. What if you didn’t have a healthy role model? Here are twelve characteristics of a healthy relationship.

Nobody is Judging You as Harshly as You Judge Yourself
(Of Two Minds) – If you are afraid of people making fun of you, read this blogger’s epiphany and how it changed the way he viewed himself and others.

Best of Our Blogs: October 7, 2016

Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.

Brandi-Ann Uyemura is a freelance writer specializing in self-help, spirituality, psychology and small business articles. She has a BA in English from University of Oregon and a MA in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University. She writes for various companies and publications and teaches stress management workshops. For more information, see her website

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Uyemura, B. (2018). Best of Our Blogs: October 7, 2016. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 28, 2020, from
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