There are the things you “should” do because everyone says you should do them. (You should work harder. You should be more successful than you are. You should be married.) And then there are things you “should” do because you know you should like take care of yourself, take a break, sleep more, etc. Why is we’re more likely to listen to others and ignore ourselves?
Imagine for a moment what it would feel like to say, “No.” Choosing to do something that feels right for you comes with both fear and empowerment. When we listen to other people we avoid judgment, shame and responsibility. When we decide to do something for ourselves, we risk all the above, but in return we’re rewarded with a sense of self-efficacy, independence and freedom.
Sometimes people are wiser than we are. Sometimes we do need to listen before we react. But even doctors and other professionals don’t have the inner knowledge that comes from living your life.
This week ask yourself what advice is worth listening to and which ones you need to give up for your own happiness. Then read our posts and see which tips seem right for you and your situation.
Validation Validation Validation
(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – The one thing everyone needs, especially someone who grew up being invalidated, is validation. Read the three different ways it can have a powerful impact over you and your relationships.
Reminders for the Days You Need Extra Self-Care
(Weightless) – On the days when you’re really hard on yourself for all the things you should be doing, read this.
The secret ingredient to dealing with depression
(Unleash Your Creativity) – Do you feel helpless to depression? If you feel weak and powerless to it, there is something you can do to take back control.
The Art of Becoming Self-Aware
(Psychoanalysis Now) – How many times have you judge another person today? Most likely you’ve analyzed your family’s unhealthy habits or a friend’s toxic relationship, but were completely blind sited by your own failings. If that sounds like you, this post may help you to become more self-aware.
10 Fun Facts about Spinsters
(Single at Heart) – We have preconceived beliefs about older, single women. But here’s why history shows “spinsters” were actually interesting, successful, and happy people.