I don’t know when it became shameful to ask for help. We certainly didn’t start our lives out that way. Imagine a baby reaching for mom’s hands to walk or a child needing his dad to hold his bike before he’s ready to ride on his own. Instead of supporting them, what if they said, “Shame on you for needing help. You should be able to do it on your own.”

Yet, when we grow up, that need for help embarrasses us. It makes us feel less than. We think that because we’re old enough to stand on our own two feet, we don’t need help anymore. And if we do, we should stay quiet about it. It’s much better to pretend we’re okay than to let the world know how imperfectly human we are.

It’s unfortunate that we live in a society with opportunities and resources, yet we’re so afraid to ask for help. The truth is we all need help whether we’re 2 or 62 years old. As adults, we may visibly appear to be less vulnerable than children. But the older we are, the greater the depth of our wounds.

Whether you or a loved one is struggling with porn addiction, loneliness or anxiety, I hope the posts below will encourage you to seek help. There is nothing embarrassing or shameful about doing so. In fact, seeking the help you need means you’re probably somebody’s *mental health hero.

Sexual Dysfunction: The Escalating Price of Abusing Porn
(Sex & Intimacy in the Digital Age) – The accessibility and affordability of Internet pornography are causing not only emotional, relationship, and financial problems, but sexual dysfunction. Find out the signs and symptoms of porn-induced sexual dysfunction and what type of treatment options are available to those who need help.

Is Facebook Making Us Lonelier? The Great Mindful Experiment
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – Is social media to blame for our loneliness? In this post, Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. offers an alternative explanation. Maybe it’s not technology itself, but our choices, values and priorities that are responsible for our connection with others and our disconnection. This is a wake up call on the importance of being more mindful.

Who Says ‘I Love You’ First? Unexpected Findings
(Healing Together for Couples) – This post analyzes recent research findings on the confession and expression of love between men and women. It shines an interesting light on the role sex plays in the significance of those three words we all want to hear: “I love you.”

*Mental Health Hero: Keith Mahar
(Mental Health Humor) – The latest mental health hero is an activist, mental health advocate, social worker and a Mentalympian (anyone who voluntarily competes against stigma, prejudice and/or discrimination by disclosing that she or he has personally experienced mental illness). Learn more about and check out the cartoon version of this mental health humor.

The ABC’S of Behavior
(Anxiety & OCD Exposed) – We learn so much from our pets. In this post, Laura Smith, Ph.D. shows us that how we comfort our furry children and our children can exacerbate their fears. Here she explains what we should do instead.