As human beings, we naturally want to fill any emptiness we feel. Animals don’t do this. Your dog won’t try to fill her loneliness with food or drugs. Your cat won’t sabotage his happiness to cope with the pain of losing his mate. But we’re hardwired to feel uncomfortable when we feel alone and disconnected. The key isn’t to stuff the unknown with more painful stuff, but to find something deeper, and more grounded to tie the ends that have been severed from life’s challenges, difficulties, and tragedies.
In Carry On Warrior, The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life, author Glennon Doyle Melton says the following:
“I start feeling empty and restless, and instead of remembering that sometimes life is uncomfortable and empty everywhere, I decide that bliss is just a new house or town or state away. It isn’t. Wherever you go, there you are. Your emptiness goes with you. Maddening…Shopping and moving don’t help, but I’ve discovered a few things that do: writing, reading, water, walks, forgiving myself every other minute, practicing easy yoga, taking deep breaths, and petting my dogs.”
She says the difficult part of being human is living with this emptiness. Her job isn’t to fill all the holes, it’s to learn how to accept them.
Whatever road you’re currently walking, the unknown, the dangerous, or the rocky, I hope her words and these week’s post offer an alternative way of viewing your path. Maybe it’s not in finding the answer to finally resolve the questions. Maybe it’s in learning to walk through it, hole-y, uncertain, and uncomfortable, that we become our greatest, healthiest, and whole selves.
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