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Best of Our Blogs: June 30, 2015


Whether I succeed or fail in life, there is a part of me that still secretly hopes someone will cheer or hold me in response. What I often get instead is an underplaying of my wins and a kick in the shins when I fail. The worst part is that I’m usually at fault. I both long for and admonish my desire to be self-soothed.

How often do you do this too?

You might resent a loved one for their inability to empathize with you. But I’ve found that when I’m desperately seeking external validation, self-compassion is what I’m really looking for.

Could you comfort yourself with words you’d save only for a good friend? Words like:

“It’s okay. You did the best you could.”

“You’re beautiful. I love all of you just as you are.”

“You did an amazing job! I’m so proud of you.”

It may seem absurd and silly at first, but as you’ll read this week, self-love could be the greatest gift you give others and yourself.

Cutting out your Toxic Parent
(Strength Over Adversity) – How do you deal with a toxic parent? It may not be easy, but this blogger shares all the reasons why the best thing you could do is to cut him or her out of your life for good.

Using Storytelling Techniques to Reframe Your Life
(Make a Mess – Everyday Creativity) – If you’ve ever asked yourself how some people are able to transform their mistakes, tragedies and failures into triumph, growth and opportunity, read this. Margarita shares a creative exercise that can help you reframe your story from pain and drama to adventure and joy.

Pendulum of Change: A CBT Activity
(After Trauma) – What does changing one’s behavior actually look like? This therapist shares the role therapy has in helping clients make permanent changes in their lives.

The Fine Line Between Selfish and Strong
(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – How do you know if you’re decisions are based on selfish or self-preserving reasons? This post will help you determine the difference and guide you toward becoming a stronger person.

The Secrets to Wiring a Happier Brain
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – Want more happiness? According to this, self-love could help you cultivate a happier and more resilient brain.

Best of Our Blogs: June 30, 2015

Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.

Brandi-Ann Uyemura is a freelance writer specializing in self-help, spirituality, psychology and small business articles. She has a BA in English from University of Oregon and a MA in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University. She writes for various companies and publications and teaches stress management workshops. For more information, see her website

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Uyemura, B. (2018). Best of Our Blogs: June 30, 2015. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 26, 2020, from
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