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Best of Our Blogs: June 24, 2016

A hand holding a magnet isolated on white to pick up an objectWordPress was wonky this week so I haven’t been able to do my usual post. It was a great reminder to me of how things have the potential to control you, if you let it.

How much energy are you spending on things you have no control over like the weather, your co-worker’s insensitivity, your relative’s lack of compassion or other people’s success on Facebook?

Your mind is like a magnet attracted to what needs fixing. It steals away energy from the things you can control like how you are with your kids, husband and yourself.

When you are consumed with fixing instead of accepting, you rob yourself of the present moment. You steal away precious time from what really matters.

The next time you feel yourself getting sucked into jealousy, worry or anger, stop. Remember your thoughts are just thoughts. The stories you tell yourself about what happened are stories, not reality. You don’t have to choose to get lost into them. You can choose to be in this moment right now.

To help you get centered, practice presence when you read our posts this week. You’ll learn some of the consequences of things you haven’t spend energy on, but should, like your boundaries, childhood or child’s anxiety.

The Long Term Effects of Weak Boundaries
(Happily Imperfect) – If you struggle with saying, “No,” are an over-sharer and can’t seem to stay in a long-term relationship, your problem could be unhealthy boundaries. Here are three consequences of not setting adequate limits with others.

Mind Control by Narcissists
(Normalcy Meets Narcissism) – This could explain why you fall apart when your parent disapproves and why you would do nearly anything to obey.

Children with Narcissistic Parental Alienation Syndrome
(The Recovery Expert) – What happens when you have one narcissistic parent and one who is not? Often, psychological manipulation and brainwashing occurs.

Trauma and Mental Health: 7 Facts You Should Know
(Caregiver, Family & Friends) – In contrast to what many people think, children experience trauma even though they don’t understand it. Here are more trauma facts many people don’t know or misunderstand.

When Your Anxious Child Rejects Your Help, Try This
(Stress Better) – No matter what you say or do, your child is still full of fear and worry. You feel helpless and anxious yourself. These stress-reducing techniques will help.

Best of Our Blogs: June 24, 2016

Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.

Brandi-Ann Uyemura is a freelance writer specializing in self-help, spirituality, psychology and small business articles. She has a BA in English from University of Oregon and a MA in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University. She writes for various companies and publications and teaches stress management workshops. For more information, see her website

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Uyemura, B. (2018). Best of Our Blogs: June 24, 2016. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 1, 2020, from
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