I have a “friend” who spent their entire 2010 stuck in what-ifs. What if I lose my job? What if I never feel better? What if my dreams don’t come true?

Do you have a friend like that?

Do you have a friend who attacks your self-esteem by laughing at your mistakes, criticizes your weaknesses and points a finger at your flaws. Worse yet, does she ever say, “You won’t ever be successful in life” because all your efforts are “just not good enough.”

Some kind of friend right?

But what if I told you that friend was not a friend at all, but your thoughts. Closer to you than any friend would ever be, this inner self-critic sits on your shoulders and constantly berates you. That type of constant negative feedback will wear on a person’s soul and can eventually lead to depression and anxiety especially if it’s done day in and day out over a period of time.

If you were to sit down and think about it, would you be surprised by how often they consume your mind?

Can you begin working on a more positive life by getting rid of that inner downer from influencing you?

Just something to think about this week as I leave you with five posts that will also change your thoughts and the way live your life.

The Neuroscience of Romanticized Love – Part 2: Either-Or Thinking

(Neuroscience & Relationships) – The fairytale of romantic love has sabotaged more than a few relationships. Black and white thinking isn’t just bad for living your life, it’s also terrible for your love life. This post will open your mind to the possibility of new romance-one that’s more about being balanced, open and appreciating your partner for who they are, not some idealized version of how you think they are supposed to be.

Cultivate Mindfulness to Enhance Well-Being

(Adventures in Positive Psychology) – Want Need a break from your demanding day job? Give yourself a mini vacation by learning to cultivate and incorporate mindfulness into your daily life.

Debt as a Rite of Passage

(Real World Research) – Have you heard the news? Research says young people associate debt with self-esteem. Could Generation Yers also be perceiving debt as a new rite of passage? This blogger tries to make sense of the nonsensical.

I Want to Do it All: Creative Polymathy

(The Creative Mind) -Are you known among friends as the “Jack or Jill of all trades?” But instead of the master of none, you’re good at everything? You might be a creative polymath. Read this to find out.

Building Equality in Your Relationships

(The Therapist Within) – A great complement to our first post above, this one again explores relationships. But this time with a slant towards greater balance and more equality.