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Best of Our Blogs: July 21, 2015

happy-birthdayWith my birthday coming up this week, I’m surprised by my changed in attitude. Normally, I dread the day for weeks prior.

When I was in my twenties, I worried no one would remember.

When I got older, I worried over the passing time and how far I was from reaching age related milestones.

But then I watched Dr. Christiane Northrup on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday and she opened my eyes to a new way of perceiving birthdays and aging.

“I would stop celebrating milestone birthdays. Because the milestone becomes a millstone. In our culture, it says you’re running out of time. You only have so much left…See, just getting older is not enough to celebrate. Well, I’m still here. That’s not worth much…You celebrate everything that you’ve accomplished or that you’re proud of in the past year so that you have really a celebration of your worth and your increased competence. That’s a cool thing.”

This year, I’m forgoing the typical milestone birthday. Instead of reflecting upon what I haven’t achieved, I’m rejoicing over the challenges, obstacles and ordinary yet extraordinary acts of courage and vulnerability that has landed me here at this current moment. I’ve given talks to moms on stress management, led workshops, started my own writer’s group and survived my grandmother’s passing and relative’s major surgery. I think that’s more than enough reason to celebrate the passing year.

Need reasons to celebrate your 2015? Read our top posts and you may be reminded about all the meaningful things you’ve already accomplished this year.

The Four Kinds of Boundaries & How to Build Them
(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – You’re overly vulnerable to criticism or insults from others, struggle to manage your feelings internally, prone to emotional outbursts, or worry too much. If that sounds like you, you’re probably struggling with personal boundaries. This should help. 

Why You Need Friends
(Being Beautifully Bipolar) – You don’t need a ton of friendships in order to keep your head above water especially when you live with mental illness. According to Elaina, you just need three.

5 Powerful Ways Kindness Makes You Happier and Healthier!
(Reaching Life Goals) – There is one thing you can do to improve your physical and mental health. Read all the ways being kind to others is the best way to be kind to yourself.

Helpful Ways to Shift Your Perspective
(Weightless) – A powerful way we can shift our perspective is to change our internal dialogue. Try using one of these alternative statements to reduce stress, feel empowered and ignite positivity in your life. 

Breaking free of the Narcissist Boyfriend
(Strength Over Adversity) – Would you know a narcissistic person if you met him or her? Sarah shares the red flags, warning signs and her fairy tale beginning in her toxic relationship with a narcissist.

Best of Our Blogs: July 21, 2015

Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.

Brandi-Ann Uyemura is a freelance writer specializing in self-help, spirituality, psychology and small business articles. She has a BA in English from University of Oregon and a MA in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University. She writes for various companies and publications and teaches stress management workshops. For more information, see her website

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Uyemura, B. (2018). Best of Our Blogs: July 21, 2015. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 30, 2020, from
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