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Best of Our Blogs: July 17, 2015

CameraI can’t remember who said it nor can I recall the exact quote. But I remember the essence of what was said because it was so shockingly true: We walk all over the people we love and bend over backwards to impress the people that don’t matter.

How many times have we snipped at a partner only to muster up every ounce of kindness and false positivity to a stranger?

How often have we yelled at our kids for messing up, but continue to allow a co-worker or boss to disrespect us?

We’re often harshest to the ones we’re closest to. Appearances take precedence over genuine care and concern for those that need, desire and require our patience most. It’s easier to release our wrath on someone we’re comfortable with because we take their loyalty for granted. It’s difficult to show the world we’re not as strong, positive or upbeat as we’d like to appear to be. It’s much harder for us to forgive ourselves for our mistakes and less than perfect lives. But perhaps, the road to greater authenticity, transparency and honesty starts with being aware of who we really are and how we really feel and then taking the risk to be ourselves.

As you’ll read this week, how you appear to others could be the result of past trauma, negative relationships and even your physical and mental health. Sometimes it takes resetting our boundaries. Other times it requires taking a good hard look at what we’re feeding ourselves. What’s the secret to treating those we love better? It starts with an awareness of who and what matters most. Then choosing to prioritize authenticity over appearances.

Want to Feel Better? Start With Your Gut
(Leveraging Adversity) – You have a second brain regulating various bodily functions and activities you’d never dream about. Read why recent research is revealing there’s truth behind the phrase, “You are what you eat.”

Attachment Re-visited: 7 Red Flag Signs of Poor Boundaries
(Caregivers, Family & Friends) – Are you constantly struggling with relationships? Find out why you may need to establish stricter, more appropriate boundaries with others.

An All-Natural Mood Booster To Beat Depression
(Character Strengths) – As an adjunct to other types of depression therapies, consider using your signature strengths to increase happiness and potentially decrease depression.

When a Therapist Breaks Your Trust
(Embracing Balance) – It takes time to confide in a therapist. When there’s a betrayal, how does one heal the damage, and rebuild faith in therapy? Nicole shares how she was able to bounce back from her own bad experience.

Living with Bipolar Or Depression? Why Celebrate Your Mental Health?
(Mental Health Humor) – Is there a legitimate reason to celebrate mental illness or just one of Chato’s way of mitigating the emotional pain with humor? He shares his own personal road to recovery and what he believes is truly worth celebrating.

Best of Our Blogs: July 17, 2015

Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.

Brandi-Ann Uyemura is a freelance writer specializing in self-help, spirituality, psychology and small business articles. She has a BA in English from University of Oregon and a MA in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University. She writes for various companies and publications and teaches stress management workshops. For more information, see her website

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Uyemura, B. (2018). Best of Our Blogs: July 17, 2015. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 21, 2020, from
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