If you’ve ever dreamed up goals, you might be victim to this. If, for example, you have a certain weight you’d like to get to, believe there’s a specific job that will fulfill you or salary that will signal you made it, you probably suffer from not-enoughitis.
It’s a feeling that something must be strived for to feed a sense of self-worth and happiness. It’s an insatiable need to soothe and validate yourself with something external.
The surprising solution isn’t to keep tackling more goals. Instead ask yourself what created this sense of unworthiness and what you can do to change that. Otherwise, no matter how much you achieve you’ll always feel empty. Your success will never match up to how you feel inside until you address the root of your pain.
If you’re ready to turn inward, it’s a good time to check out our top posts this week. We cover toxic shame and other issues that stem from childhood.
Toxic, Chronic Shame: What It’s Like to Live with It
(Psychology of Self) – Your loneliness, anxiety, and feelings of emptiness all add up to this.
Pity the Narcissist’s Poor Golden Child? (Pt 1)
(Narcissism Meets Normalcy) – If your sibling was the “golden child” in your family, you probably never felt bad for them. But this may leave you feeling differently.
2 Common Mistakes Men Make In Relationships
(Psychology of Women) – If you’re a man, reading this could change your relationship for the better.
Treating Different Categories of Sex/Porn Addicts
(Sex & Intimacy in the Digital Age) – There are similarities and differences when treating traditional sex and porn addicts versus a growing subcategory of addicts in the digital age. Here’s how to tell the difference.
Parental Alienation: What NOT to do if you are the Targeted Parent of a Narcissist
(The Recovery Expert) – You don’t want to further alienate yourself from your kids so make sure you don’t do this.