I was listening to a recent online wellness class and was moved by what the teacher said. After all you’ve been through, he said, “Don’t you think you deserve to be happy?”
For those who grew up with difficult childhoods, happiness seems like some elusive thing. Even if you knew what would make you happy, you don’t know how to get it. And even if you found happiness, you wouldn’t know how to keep it.
But even if happiness seems unattainable, and you didn’t have many happy moments as a kid, you can still feel happy now. Thinking of happiness this way may help.
Happiness isn’t some big glamorous accomplishment. It’s not a goal. It’s not a permanent state to work towards. Happiness is a fleeting emotion that can be experienced by simple things. And it’s worth pursuing.
Taking a drive to witness a sunset. Reading a beautifully written blog post by someone you can relate to. Laughing with a friend. Discover what’s important to you-memorable moments, seeing something new, art-whatever it is, do that simple thing and watch your mood change. For a moment, you can be happy too.
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