In Sound True’s Insight at the Edge podcast with Gabrielle Bernstein, she explains a thought-provoking view-that judgment is a form of addiction, something that starts with a temporary high and ends with an emotional hangover.
“I think I can see for myself, before doing this process I felt justified in my judgment. I felt like they were protecting me. It was a false sense of protection. But when I really started to dig into it, I could see how detrimental the behavior was, and how it was really bringing me down. The reason I believe that judgment is an addictive pattern is that the same way we would use drugs, or alcohol, or work, or sex, or love—to project out, to do something, to anesthetize a deep-rooted wound or discomfort.”
This applies to everyone we judge from our neighbors to politicians. The next time you catch yourself judging your partner or yourself, stop and think about why you’re being triggered, what are you most afraid of and what can you do to enact positive changes in your life.
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