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Best of Our Blogs: February 23, 2016

Index fingerThere is a mistake people often make that prevents them from growing, moving on and being truly happy.

If you get stuck when facing a challenge and can’t take it when you hear fair, but critical feedback, you’re probably one of those people.

The difference is how good you are at responding to difficulty with either blame or responsibility. One triggers a shame spiral of unworthiness and the other keeps self-worth out of it. Responsibility, in other words, comes from a place of understanding that you’re not perfect, you’re allowed to make mistakes and you can learn from it.

People who respond to a mistake with the ability to hold themselves accountable are able to pick themselves up faster, grow from the experience and make decisions that changes their future. Although it’s not always easy to get there, it’s a worthy endeavor.

Perhaps, a childhood of being blamed contributed to your current situation. Being emotionally neglected and other forms of abuse can cause you to take on more fault than necessary. But when you learn to stop blaming yourself for everything, you free up your energy to start changing your life and situation for the better.

The 5 Uncommon Strengths of the Emotionally Neglected
(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – You grew up feeling like what you thought and felt didn’t matter. While a lot of heartache and struggle followed that upbringing, you also cultivated surprising strengths. Find out what they are here.

5 Realities of Living With Bipolar Disorder
(Bipolar Laid Bare) – It’s a difficult thing to deal with. One that most can’t understand. But the key to living with bipolar disorder resides in accepting these five truths.

Can Women Get Addicted to Porn?
(Sex & Intimacy in the Digital Age) – If you’re a woman, you’re not immune to porn addiction. Read this to see if you or someone you know is becoming an addict.

Mood Alteration and Other Signs of Testosterone Deficiency in Men
(NLP Discoveries) – Low testosterone can occur in young and middle-aged as well as older men. Here are a few signs to look out for.

What Happens to Abused Children When They Become Adults
(One Sober Life) – Abuse affects children for the rest of their lives. According to this post, there are things about physical and emotional abuse that can lead to everything from homelessness to repeat abuse.

Best of Our Blogs: February 23, 2016

Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.

Brandi-Ann Uyemura is a freelance writer specializing in self-help, spirituality, psychology and small business articles. She has a BA in English from University of Oregon and a MA in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University. She writes for various companies and publications and teaches stress management workshops. For more information, see her website

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Uyemura, B. (2018). Best of Our Blogs: February 23, 2016. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 29, 2020, from
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