Valentine’s Day always reminds me of high school. Not because I remember it as being a lovefest with a plethora of gifts to boot. I’m haunted by it because it was a time of heartache, awkwardness and self-loathing.
At that time, a silent phone and empty hand come Valentine’s day was confirmation of my unlovableness. It’s something I still struggle with on a lesser degree and at an unconscious level. It happens as a result of an unreturned call, an insensitive remark, a rude response. Anything that could potentially be interpreted as a sign of rejection can bring me back to those terrible teenage years and prompt me to people please.
It’s taken work, but our posts keep teaching me that self-love and change takes time. Nurturing our inner self requires persistence, acknowledgment and self-compassion. A difficulty with self-acceptance could be the result of an inability to come to terms with our teen years or as our top posts this week demonstrate, a sign of emotional sensitivity, childhood emotional neglect, or adverse childhood experience. Maybe all of the above? The good news is there are ways we can change the perception of our past experiences. We may even be able to enjoy the upcoming holiday with our blogger’s creative tips this week.
A Secret Cause & Cure for the Socially Anxious
(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – Do you feel alone and out of place? If a sense that something is missing is plaguing you, you may be suffering from this invisible, yet powerful force.
Two Ways to Clarify and Try Mindfulness and Meditation
(Healing Together for Couples) – What’s the difference between mindfulness and meditation? This post provides a helpful definition with an example of each.
The Truth About ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences): Infographic by RWJF
(Reflections from a Children’s Therapist) – Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) can wreak havoc on a person’s adult life. But it doesn’t have to. This post shares interesting facts on how abuse, neglect and household dysfunction can carry through to adulthood. But as you’ll read here, there is a lot you can do to help a child who has experienced ACEs.
How To Respond When You’ve Been Wronged
(Healthy Romantic Relationships) – Surprisingly, we often have a choice to be a victim or a victor in life. Read what this blogger did to shift his situation from immature reacting to mature responding.
Six Ideas to Celebrate Valentine’s Day Your Way
(The Emotionally Sensitive Person) – Is Valentine’s Day not your favorite holiday? Valentine’s Day isn’t just for young, hot and new couples. Here’s are 6 reasons why you can transform the day into an opportunity to share and express love on all levels.