I recently read this post by a singer with bipolar disorder. It opened my eyes to what self-care actually looks like when you’re suffering from a mental illness.

Instead of spa days, and yoga, she says for her it looks like slowing down, finding your own way and spending time with friends.

This holiday season as you get lost in other people’s expectations, why not create your own list? Not a self-care list that looks good, but one that feels good to you.

Our posts this week on dealing with emotional neglect, a loved one with borderline personality disorder and high conflict may be tips you want to add to your self-care tool kit.

The Link Between Childhood Emotional Neglect and Codependency
(Happily Imperfect) – If you struggle with people pleasing, perfectionism and sensitivity to criticism, this could be the reason.

4 Tips For Dealing With Your Emotionally Neglectful Parents
(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – You were raised by emotional neglectful parents. This is for you if you’ve always wondered how to interact with them while protecting yourself as an adult.

10 Tips for Living with a Borderline
(The Exhausted Woman) – If someone you love suffers from borderline personality disorder, this is a must-read.

The Perils of the Pretty Child
(Psychoanalysis Now) – A surprising downside to being beautiful. From spoiling to overprotection, it’s the dangers you didn’t foresee with having an attractive child.

How To Find Calm When High Conflict Prevails
(Unshakeable Calm) – Fighting with your ex is stressful for you, but it’s also harmful to your kids. Here’s a roadmap for peaceful co-parenting.