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Best of Our Blogs: December 10, 2013

In the age of the Selfie, how do we continue to navigate the world with more compassion, less selfishness and greater understanding?

Author and TED Prize winner Karen Armstrong spoke with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday recently regarding compassion. She says, “The pain that lies behind a lot of anger is hardened into rage.” In response Winfrey says, “Not understanding another person’s pain…that pain turns into rage.”

We think that the road to happiness and fulfillment is to fill our own cups. But the more we isolate and separate ourselves from others through unkindness, judgment and the inability to forgive, the greater our unhappiness, the deeper our pain. And as they said, that anger from feeling misunderstood and not understanding others often festers into rage.

The answer lies in realizing that his/her/their pain is our pain. We’re more alike than we’re different. And we have more to gain in realizing that.

In our self-obsessed society, it’s never been more important to listen to the wise words of heroes like Nelson Mandela. This week our bloggers share his profound insights to honor his legacy, promote peace, love and compassion and remind us that our capacity to heal, be happy and bounce back from difficulty is far greater than we imagine. His words remind us that no matter the obstacle, we can transform the impossible into possibility through something much more powerful than fear-love.

{Flickr photo by  Nick Kenrick}
{Flickr photo by
Nick Kenrick}

Nelson Mandela’s Words of Wisdom about Resilience
(Cultivating Contentment & Happiness) – We can learn a lot from the brave and wise soul who passed away recently. He graciously let his dark past become a light for all of us suffering from pain, fear and negativity. This post reminds us that we have the capacity and inner strength to rise above whatever obstacle we’re going through.

6 Ways to Channel Anger Into Exercise
(Your Body, Your Mind) – We experience anger when disappointed, as a response to loss, and when coping with pain. While many people are afraid of their anger, it’s a natural emotion. Use one of these physical activities to help you vent and channel your anger in a healing way.

3 Steps to Change a Habit
(Channel N) – Smoke? Bite your nails? Spend too much time online? Want to start 2014 without that bad habit? This video will show you how to break the habit you’ve had for a lifetime in 3 steps and in under 5 minutes.

Love Is All You Need: Social Support in PTSD Treatment
(After Trauma) – When you’re going through a difficult time, you may feel alone, but you’re not. Surrounding yourself with people who care can minimize your pain, remind you that everyone experiences difficulty and heal what hurts. And as this post shows, adults with PTSD who lack social support can actually experience higher levels of symptoms.

Celebrating the Wisdom of Nelson Mandela
(The Psychology of Success) – To be truly successful in life, you don’t need to be wealthy, on the cover of a magazine or have the most social media followers. Nelson Mandela’s wise words remind us that true success comes from happiness, and that comes from the courage to let love in.

Best of Our Blogs: December 10, 2013

Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.

Brandi-Ann Uyemura is a freelance writer specializing in self-help, spirituality, psychology and small business articles. She has a BA in English from University of Oregon and a MA in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University. She writes for various companies and publications and teaches stress management workshops. For more information, see her website

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Uyemura, B. (2018). Best of Our Blogs: December 10, 2013. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 23, 2019, from
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