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Best of Our Blogs: August 4, 2015

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Making peace with the unknown is a classic struggle. It dictates the decisions we make, our behavior and attitudes towards others and ourselves.

It’s the reason why you can’t sleep at night.

It’s why you hold on to relationships that don’t serve you.

It explains your feeling of being stuck.

The unknown is ripe with possibility, but wrapped up in a cloud of fear.

For those of us who grew up with uncertainty and instability, a sense of control feels paramount. The need to know, the need for things to be the same doesn’t just feel comfortable, it feels like surviving.

If you’re navigating remote waters, it’s even more important to find solace in routine. Whether you’re grappling with divulging a secret, sharing your vulnerabilities with a friend, or learning to let go of shoulds, musts and perfectionism as mentioned in our posts below, simultaneously engaging in something comforting like spending time with your pet, meditating or painting can help you through the fear.

The Cost of Secrets: Understanding the Impact on Self and Others
(Healing Together for Couples) – Secrets are seemingly harmless right? You might think keeping a secret is protecting your relationship(s), but here’s what it’s really doing instead.

Seven False Beliefs About Relationships
(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – There are so many untruths about relationships that prevent us from the intimacy and connection we crave. If you grew up believing in any of these beliefs, you’re likely to feel alone, and distant from others. This post will show you how to overcome them¬†so you can develop the type of friendships you’ve always wanted.

Happy to Be a Horrible Homemaker
(Life with Anxiety & Depression) – Your house is a mess. Your kids are too. Does that make you a bad parent? Amanda shares what really matters.

A Material World: Impulse Control and Self-Regulation
(Anger Management) – Discomfort and patience go a long way in teaching us about resilience, self-control and even success. If you and your family are caught up in today’s obsession with ¬†instant gratification, you need to read this.

Shoulds and Musts
(The Whole Self) – Are the “shoulds” and “musts” dictating your life? Read one powerful way you can squash them.

Best of Our Blogs: August 4, 2015

Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.

Brandi-Ann Uyemura is a freelance writer specializing in self-help, spirituality, psychology and small business articles. She has a BA in English from University of Oregon and a MA in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University. She writes for various companies and publications and teaches stress management workshops. For more information, see her website

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Uyemura, B. (2018). Best of Our Blogs: August 4, 2015. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 1, 2020, from
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