Although we all experience a range of emotions, there are just a handpicked few we’re comfortable with. That’s understandable when you’re talking about major depression or other psychological disorders. But what about milder moods of disappointment, jealousy, or agitation?
Most of us would rather swim in a spring of joy and love than experience darker emotions like grief and anger. But author and social science researcher Karla McLaren says in Sounds True’s Insight at the Edge, there is a gift in all emotions from happy to sad and everything in between.
“I see emotions as fundamental and vital aspects of every part of our lives. I see them as fundamental to all thinking, all behavior, all motivation. So, each emotion has a very specific job to do in the psyche. Each emotion helps us—or all the emotions together—become successful social beings and successful internal beings.
So, I see each emotion as carrying a message. For instance, depression tells us, “No, pal—you can’t go forward.” Sadness says that you’re holding on to something that you don’t need anymore, so let it go. Grief says—it’s different than sadness—something has died. Someone or something has died, and you didn’t have a choice about it. So, here’s the emotion that can help you survive that…What we’ve been taught is that we only like the happy ones. We only like the “good” ones…we’re trained to be good in very few emotions. The rest of them—the other 14—we are trained to run from and ignore. Then, we try to go hide in the emotions in the happiness area. The happiness emotions have their own jobs to do. They have really important jobs to do—but they can’t do the job of the other emotions. The other emotions evolved because there was a need for them.”
If you’re stuck in one of those less desirable emotions, this week’s posts will help you free them through humor, inspirational stories and one type of expressive therapy.
When Did Narcissism Become Presidential?
(Bonding Time) – Is Donald Trump representing a shift in our culture towards narcissism and away from empathy? Holly shares her concerns on how his popularity could be mirroring our nation’s current state of health.
20 Signs You Are a Self-Righteous, Self-Deceived, Self-Victimizer
(NLP Discoveries) – Are you exhibiting behaviors of self-righteousness, self-deception or self-victimization? Read this to discover all the things you’re doing to sabotage your life.
Self-Esteem: Are You Blind To Your True, Hidden Gifts?
(Therapy Soup) – You may be good at something, but it may not be your actual gift. This will help you identify and rediscover your greatest contribution to the world.
(Bipolar Update) – You feel them, but you don’t always know how to express them. Here’s one type of therapy that can help you process thoughts, feelings and emotions in a creative way.
How my depression nearly killed my sobriety
(Depression On My Mind) – Christine’s celebrating 17 years of sobriety this month. Read how a change in her initial feelings towards antidepressants helped her recovery.