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Disorders

5 Fresh Ideas for Keeping Narcissists Out of Your Life


"Never again." That's what you said when you left your last narcissist.

After swearing you'd never fall in love with another narcissist, you've fallen head-over-heels in love with one... again. The pattern has repeated itself. Your new guy isn't different. Not really. He's just another charming, charismatic, abusive, control-freak narcissist.

Many psychologists say that codependents like us can walk into a room and instantly have amazing chemistry with the most wounded, most screwed up, most abusive guy in the room. No one seems to know why or how it happens. But it does! You know it does. You've experienced it and so have I.

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Mindfulness

Gut vs. Intuition: They’re Not the Same


They're not the same!

Trusting your intuition isn’t the same thing as trusting your gut.

With intuition, you just KNOW. Fear is absent, and you feel absolutely clear in your heart about some path ahead, like following up with some new person you met, or a fresh career direction that recently came to mind.

You may or may not choose to move forward immediately, but there is for sure no confusion about the message you just received.

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Marriage and Divorce

Money, Sex, & Secrets: Keep Them from Ending Your Relationship


Every relationship is stressful. What matters is how you DEAL with it.

Couples across cultures and continents — of all races and religions, economics and demographics — experience the same human emotion when faced with relationship challenges and marriage problems.

It feels like nothing ever gets resolved, the dance just keeps repeating itself.

It’s a merry-go-round of pain, misunderstanding, hurtful words and blame that gets uglier with each turn of the wheel.

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Addiction

5 Ways to Safely ‘Get High’ with Your Kids


Everyone needs to feel EXTRA alive sometimes.

I've been thinking lately about the term “getting high”, as it is so commonly used in our culture today.

As a student of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), I know the real power our language has in influencing our lives.

This leads me to wonder about the relationship between how we define getting high and the epidemic we now face with substance use disorder in our country.

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Publishers

Learn How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Critic


How to tune out self-doubt.

When we summon the courage to take a risk or make a change, we often encounter fear and a little voice that talks trash.

"You won’t be good at it. Don’t try it. You’ll fail anyway. It’s not worth the humiliation. Try again later. It won’t be good enough. Everyone will laugh at you."

That is your inner critic talking. Does it sound familiar?

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Children and Teens

Life Lessons Children Learn When They’re Not Happy All the Time


You and your child don’t have to agree on everything.

Everybody wants to make their children happy. But trying to make your children happy ALL the time is a bust. Nobody is happy all the time. You don’t want to teach your child that they must feel happy all the time. It’s easy to make that mistake.

You want your child to have all of the things you didn’t have growing up, but this will give them a false sense of security and will backfire.
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Anger

Start Living a Life Without Your Inner Demons


It's only slowing you down in life.

The lighter you travel in life, the more you can enjoy the journey.

In life, you have all kind of experiences. Some are great and there are some who will throw you off kilter. When that happens and you were hurt deeply, it is then understandable that you want to forget that episode. But, if you don't deal with the emotions and feeling you have around the hurt, you will carry it with you until you deal with it.

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Anxiety and Panic

7 Problems and Solutions to Helping a Friend with Anxiety


What they might not be able to ask for but wish you knew.

Most of us who know or love someone who is anxious intend to be supportive, even helpful, in our interactions.

We know to listen and not judge. To be patient when it’s hard to talk about issues. We even know to keep our own feelings in check so we don’t rev up an already tense situation.

That said, this is OUR experience of loving them.

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Depression

The Depressive Realism Hypothesis: Yay or Nay?


Fascinating.

Are you suffering from depression? You may not be so proud of your melancholy state of being, but there is a bright side to the situation.

If you are constantly looking at the glass as half empty, and wondering what the point of life is, you may be thinking more realistically than those nauseously joyous folks you see skipping around Happy Hour.

It turns out, that depressed people see the world more realistically and may be judging their own performance and the state of reality in a more realistic way.

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Children and Teens

Doctor Explains Symptoms of Empathic Children


How to determine if your child is an empath.

Empathic children have nervous systems which react more quickly and strongly to external stimuli including stress.

In The Empath’s Survival Guide, I emphasize that empath children feel too much but don’t know how to manage the sensory overload. They see more, hear more, smell more, intuit more, and experience emotions more.

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