Bullying

How Trump’s Brand of Masculinity Hurts Us All: It’s Toxic But We Can Fix It

You can easily find tweets, posts and messages on all forms of social media with horrific messages designed to degrade and humiliate women. And we just elected a president who unabashedly slanders and bullies women.

I want to consider the hate that some men have for women, whether in public, on social media, or in private, where domestic abuse is still all too common. These men seem to lack empathy for women. What could explain the lack of empathy that fuels misogyny?
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General

Did the House Just Let People with Mental Illness Buy Guns?

There's a lot of misinformation floating around with the recent gun vote in the U.S. House of Representatives to overturn a rule made late in the last administration's tenure. The final rule, announced in December 2016 by the Social Security Administration, was a misguided effort to try and keep guns out of the hands of some people with mental illness.

But it was a bad rule to begin with that should've never been finalized, because it didn't take into account a person's likelihood to commit a crime or likelihood of using a gun to commit violence. Furthermore, the rule violated the due process rights guaranteed under the U.S. Constitution.

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Anger

7 Red Flags to Watch Out for in a New Relationship

You’re dating someone new and everything seems to be going pretty well. That is until you spot something a little off in his (or her) behavior. When you’re first getting to know someone, you don’t want to analyze and judge every single thing he does or way he acts, but you also want to evaluate what kind of person he is and if he could be a good fit for you.

When we really like someone, we often want to overlook certain behaviors and chock it up to him or her having a bad day or our reading the situation wrong. But before you get too invested in someone, it’s important to know what her personality is really like. Here are seven red flags to watch out for in a new relationship.
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Anger

How to Argue Effectively

We have all bottled up many small problems and caused one explosive argument some time in our lives. What we don’t realize is that the person on the other side of that explosion might not even have a chance to understand the real reason we are mad.

Arguments are a completely normal and necessary activity. For them to be effective we need to understand some key components. To help you improve on expressing your problems, here are some tips.
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Anger

How Healing Shame Can Save Our World

Personal growth includes recognizing the many faces of shame and how this hard-to-detect emotion holds us back. The gnawing sense that something is wrong with us keeps us roaming in a trance of unworthiness and self-doubt. A deep sense of being flawed and defective saps our joy and spontaneity.

But have you ever wondered how shame plays out on the larger world stage? Understanding the extent to which political leaders are secretly driven by shame and use shame to steal our vote can shed new light on the hidden ways that this insidious emotion infects today’s political landscape.

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