Children and Teens

‘Help Me Figure Myself Out’: The Paved Road to the Adolescent Mind

“What do I do? I don’t know what to do with him anymore!” This is one of the many scenarios of a frantic parent knocking on the therapist’s door. Teenage years are tough, let’s not kid ourselves. We have been there, we remember.

In my practice I’ve consulted numerous parents on teens’ presenting problems such as: indifference, apathy, resistance, verbal/physical aggressiveness, destructive behavior, mood swings and a complete emotional shutdown expressed by their teenage sons and daughters.
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Anger

The Boys Club

Over the past several years sexual assault has become an increasingly popular subject. Whether this is because there is a rise in sexual assault or because it is simply more acceptable to openly discuss the matter, is unclear. Whatever the case, sexual abuse/assault/violence and harassment has exploded into common conversation.
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Children and Teens

Keep Mental Health in Mind When Weighing College Acceptance

With admissions decisions rolling out this month to many eager college applicants, this is a good time to step back and consider some of some of the shifting dynamics that parents and students rarely think about in advance. Going off to college is, without a doubt, a life-changing experience. But like all major life changes, it can be just as overwhelming as it is exciting. Adjusting to a completely new environment with different social norms and without the support of family and childhood friends -- on top of new academic pressures -- can have a significant impact on students’ wellbeing.
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College

Advice to My 13-Year-Old Self

I write as a nineteen year old student. After two years of studying psychology -- particularly child and developmental psychology -- I have a newfound appreciation of the stresses and strains of my 13 year old self.

I am not a parent and therefore I don’t feel in any way qualified to advise or comment on parenting techniques. I can, however, advise my former self. I hope to offer an insightful look into the trials and tribulations of entry into adolescence and, although this is in no way an exhaustive list, it may offer a brief insight into the mysterious mind workings of a 13 year old child.
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Children and Teens

High Speed Parenting with Teens — A Common Cause of Broken Connections

It’s easy to succumb to instinctive reactions when teens seem irritable, rejecting, and unproductive -- especially when we think we understand what’s going on and what they should be doing. Without knowing how to decode teens behavior, and/ or when emotional factors interfere with perspective, parents are vulnerable to misinterpreting difficult situations based on their own feelings and the literal, often misleading message they perceive from teens. Being in the dark and reacting automatically puts...
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General

Delayed High School Start Times Benefit Students

From prior research, educators and psychologists have long suspected that starting the school day a little later in the morning would greatly benefit students. In America, most secondary school days start between 7:30 and 8:30 am -- meaning that children and teens have to get up pretty early each morning to make homeroom on time.

The problem is that children -- and teenagers especially -- forgo sleep in order to make these early start times. Because sleep is so vitally important to both our overall health and mental health, this results in less-than-optimal academic performance by teens early in the morning.

A new large-scale research provides more insight into the benefits of later start times for high school.

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Anxiety and Panic

Our Kids’ Desire to Remain Little, Our Own Efforts Force Them to Grow Up Fast

Do you have a child who is afraid to grow up and wants to stay little for as long as possible? Does he or she complain of others calling him or her a “Big Boy” or “Big Girl”? Does your child talk to you about life moving too fast and not having enough time to play and just be a little kid? I’ve been getting this type of feedback from parents and small children and I want to tell you that these are real concerns and feelings nowadays.
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