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Brain and Behavior

You Can Train Your Brain to Be More Positive with These Steps

The clients I work with tend to have a few things in common: they are smart, ambitious, and highly motivated. Most of them are also stressed to the max.

From the outside, they appear powerful and poised. But on the inside, they worry about their ability to deal with the demands that come along with having a successful career.

If you’re a top-performer, you can probably relate. In fact,
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Creativity

Filling the Well When You Feel Depleted

You feel weary and worn out. You feel like you’re dragging. You feel like you have weights attached to your ankles. Everything -- from washing dishes to driving to work to actually working -- feels hard. Maybe even impossible.

You’re officially depleted.

Which might be because you’ve got loose boundaries and neglected needs. That is, when we don’t check in with our deepest needs, such as the need for restful sleep or time alone, “we operate without boundaries, as though we're maintenance-free robots (which don't even exist, by the way; even robots require maintenance),” said Helen McLaughlin, a life coach and writer who helps powerful women realize their power to create anything they desire in this life.
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Books

5 Things to Do When Your Child Doesn’t Listen

You ask your child to do something. They refuse. You ask nicely. They still refuse. You raise your voice just a bit to let them know you’re serious. And they refuse, again. You try to bribe them. And you get the same reaction. You finally send them to time-out or try a different discipline technique. And they still refuse—with the added bonus of being in a full-on, ear-splitting, sobbing tantrum.

Sound familiar?
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Habits

Got Stress? If Your Glass Is Always Half Empty — Get a Smaller Glass!

In this day and age, if you are not familiar with being “stressed out” on occasion, you better check your pulse because you may not be breathing.

Nonetheless, most of us experience stress as a consistent, pesky little inevitability that follows us around throughout the day, gnawing away at our nerves and testing our patience. Others experience it as severe anxiety which can become serious and debilitating. But no matter how you slice it, unless you are living in a cave, stress will always find you.


Now, what if at times we had some say over how stress affects us? What if we could alter our perspective and see things differently? What if we could develop new eyes despite our current circumstances remaining the same?
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General

A Powerful Exercise for Moving Past Regret

You stayed in many toxic relationships. Many years too long. You never finished college. You left a really good job for a job you now can’t stand. You had countless embarrassing, neglectful drunken moments, which ultimately led to your divorce. You filed for bankruptcy. You racked up thousands upon thousands of dollars in student loans. You threw yourself into work while a loved one was dying. You pursued the profession your parents demanded. You didn’t say what you wanted to say. You didn’t trust yourself.

And you regret it. And you keep thinking about these regrets—these bad moments, these bad decisions—over and over and over. You play out various scenarios. You play out different decisions you could’ve made.
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General

What Makes an Online Peer Support Group Helpful?

As someone who lives with bipolar disorder and often feels disconnected from the “real” world, it’s no surprise I’ve spent a lot of time in online support groups. All of this was long before I reached recovery, became a writer, or even heard the term “peer support.”

For me, it was simply about finding other people who could commiserate with me and understand what I was going through. Overall, I had good experiences in many of the online support groups I joined. However, not all such groups are created equal.

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ADHD and ADD

ADHD and Adults: 8 Effective Shortcuts for Home and Work

When you have ADHD, you might feel bad -- frustrated, angry, ashamed -- that you can’t accomplish certain tasks like everyone else. Why is it so hard to make a meal? Why do I forget my wallet every time?

You might feel bad that you can’t use the same methods. Why do I need a creative approach just to do laundry? It’s so simple!

“The ADHD mind is wired differently than someone without ADHD, and it’s not fair to assume they should do things the same way,” said Nikki Kinzer, a certified ADHD coach dedicated to helping people with ADHD build positive life habits, reduce stress, and take back control of their lives. “You can’t force a circle into a square.”
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Marriage and Divorce

Are You Making These Huge Divorce Mistakes?

Although feeling overwhelmed and confused during divorce is normal, remember to avoid the egregious divorce mistakes. It will save you time, money, and your sanity so that you can move on to the next chapter of your life better, not broken or bitter.

1. Not looking at the big picture.

One of the reasons why divorce feels horrible is because you probably weren’t taught how to plan ahead in divorce. It’s funny, isn’t it? Guidance counselors and academic...
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Mindfulness

Gut vs. Intuition: They’re Not the Same


They're not the same!

Trusting your intuition isn’t the same thing as trusting your gut.

With intuition, you just KNOW. Fear is absent, and you feel absolutely clear in your heart about some path ahead, like following up with some new person you met, or a fresh career direction that recently came to mind.

You may or may not choose to move forward immediately, but there is for sure no confusion about the message you just received.

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