General

Two Essential Factors for Effective Communication

Couples often enter my office complaining about a communication problem. Oftentimes, this is true. But there are two more fundamental issues that are often hidden. When uncovered, it can help move relationships from an impasse to deeper intimacy.

The Mindfulness Factor

We can communicate only to the extent to which we’re aware of what we’re experiencing inside. It takes a hefty dose of mindfulness to notice what we’re actually experiencing.

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Brain and Behavior

Psychology Around the Net: February 25, 2017


How's your Saturday going, sweet readers?

Swimmingly, I hope!

Whether you're waking up with a cup of coffee (or tea), taking a break from the weekend, or just winding down, take some time to check out this week's latest mental health news. We've got everything from how wandering minds affect our mental well-being to figuring out when self-help programs are actually helpful to the research that shows cats aren't causing psychotic symptoms.

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Marriage and Divorce

Lower the Bar, Save Your Marriage

Many people marry and soon find that their spouse is annoying -- not constantly of course, but more than they expected. Fairy tales and romantic novels suggest that a good marriage is an effortless, happily ever after experience, with the emphasis on effortless.

Rabbi Yosef Richards offers this tongue-in-cheek, but really truer to life view of marriage: “People are annoying. So find the person who annoys you the least and marry that one.”
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Anger

How to Dialogue through Successful Conflict Resolution

Relationships are hard work and in order to create healthy communication patterns, one must learn to have successful conflict resolutions. Many times you might find yourself at a communication impasse and feel increasing frustration.  It’s common to feel as though there isn’t a way around it and just to escape the conflict or to react negatively to it… but there is a better way.
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Brain and Behavior

Why We Put Off Life’s Most Important Things

No question about it. Life is messy, complicated, complex and full of surprises. There’s always a lot to do and the feeling that there isn’t enough time to deal with what needs to be done. In fact, however, we are our own worst enemy when it comes to taking care of some of life’s most important decisions. Why do we put off what’s necessary, often inevitable, and can make such a difference? It often has a root in
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Habits

What’s in a Moment?

As Josh did the dishes, his mind wandered to a memory of lost love. He was happier back then. Regrets washed over him.

Frank checked his cellphone the very instant he was left alone. He welcomed the distraction.

Charlie barely noticed the people around him on the bus. He was busy thinking about the mistakes he made that day.
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