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Creativity

5 Ways to Let It Flow

“The mind is like a river, and, as with a river, there’s no point in trying to stop its flow.” – Mingyur Rinpoche

You know when you get into a groove, you just want to keep on going. You might say you’re “in the flow,” “going with the flow,” “in your sweet spot,” or some other catchy phrase.
It feels good.
You want it to continue.
Why don’t you let it?
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Creativity

How to Become a More Interesting Person

Many people see themselves as boring or not very interesting. As a result, they minimize social contact, or feel self-conscious and awkward when interacting.

Having a self-image of being uninteresting can lead to isolation and loneliness, while eroding self-worth.

A fascinating inquiry is to explore what makes us interesting. Is it our net worth, our accomplishments, or knowing people who are popular? Maybe these factors create a curious image that some people find appealing. But do we want people to find our image interesting or find us interesting?

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Brain and Behavior

You Can Train Your Brain to Be More Positive with These Steps

The clients I work with tend to have a few things in common: they are smart, ambitious, and highly motivated. Most of them are also stressed to the max.

From the outside, they appear powerful and poised. But on the inside, they worry about their ability to deal with the demands that come along with having a successful career.

If you’re a top-performer, you can probably relate. In fact,
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Creativity

Filling the Well When You Feel Depleted

You feel weary and worn out. You feel like you’re dragging. You feel like you have weights attached to your ankles. Everything -- from washing dishes to driving to work to actually working -- feels hard. Maybe even impossible.

You’re officially depleted.

Which might be because you’ve got loose boundaries and neglected needs. That is, when we don’t check in with our deepest needs, such as the need for restful sleep or time alone, “we operate without boundaries, as though we're maintenance-free robots (which don't even exist, by the way; even robots require maintenance),” said Helen McLaughlin, a life coach and writer who helps powerful women realize their power to create anything they desire in this life.
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Mental Health and Wellness

Mindfulness for the Rest of Us

We've all heard about this concept called "mindfulness" -- it's the latest buzzword in psychology that's picked up a lot of momentum in the past decade. In short, it's a set of skills that you can learn to help you live more in the moment, every moment, of your life. Rather than the fractured, dazzled, attention-challenged person so many of us feel like we are.

While I'd love to offer a course in mindfulness, its not in my specialty wheelhouse. So I'm happy to do the next best thing... Offer you a course by one of our bloggers who's been with us since the beginning of our blog network, Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

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Mindfulness

Gut vs. Intuition: They’re Not the Same


They're not the same!

Trusting your intuition isn’t the same thing as trusting your gut.

With intuition, you just KNOW. Fear is absent, and you feel absolutely clear in your heart about some path ahead, like following up with some new person you met, or a fresh career direction that recently came to mind.

You may or may not choose to move forward immediately, but there is for sure no confusion about the message you just received.

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Celebrities

Psychology Around the Net: September 2, 2017


Happy Saturday, sweet readers!

If you're here in America, I hope you're taking advantage of the three-day holiday weekend -- unless, of course, you or a loved one has been hit by tragedy Hurricane Harvey has caused. I've seen so many donation requests over the past few days -- everything from money to basic items you wouldn't even think of (at least I didn't) like diapers -- and it makes me proud to know that even in this country's turbulent times, we're still here for each other.

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Family

Pleasure from Someone Else’s Pain

When I hear a word not commonly used in my vernacular twice in a period of a few days, I know I need not wait for a third time to explore the concept.

Schadenfreude (pronounced ‘shade n froid’) which comes from German and originates from the words ‘harm’ and ‘joy. It is defined as, “enjoyment obtained from the troubles of others.” Chances are, you know someone who indulges in this practice, or perhaps, you do so yourself. It may seem like human nature to wish ill will on someone who wreaks havoc or does harm to others. As much as I am aware that cause and effect ultimately occurs, I take a page from those I know who practice the religion of Wicca as they don’t believe in casting negative spells since they hold firmly to the idea that what they put out into the world, returns 10-fold. Better not to evoke bad karma.
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Anxiety and Panic

Experiencing Goodwill


As someone who shamelessly scours Goodwill for second-hand finds, this confession is particularly painful: New is better.

New experiences -- that is. I will forever cherish my vintage t-shirts and maps.

Over the past year, I have put those vintage maps to use, traveling to five countries.

While traveling can tire (that said, I have a sneaking suspicion that you are not shedding any tears for me), fresh experiences rejuvenate -- at least anecdotally. Even when they seemingly sap every reservoir of energy and patience.
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Grief and Loss

How to Get Back Your Joy After Loss

“When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.” – Jalaluddin Rumi
My belief is that you invest joy in yourself. No one can take it with them when they leave.

When you live in joy, finding appreciation in the seemingly trivial things in life, the quiet moments you share with others, in your accomplishments, pursuing your dreams, making full use of your talents and abilities, you grow your self-confidence, boost your self-esteem, and realize that you are whole and complete as you are.
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