How I Learned to Find Purpose in Life

By all accounts, I had a normal childhood: loving mother, father, brother, a cat, enough to eat, a comfortable place to sleep, and no major illnesses to speak of. That all changed when my father died suddenly from a major heart attack when I had just turned 13. My loss was so great that I was nearly unable to function, even considering that a teenage girl doesn’t have that many responsibilities. The
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Forgiveness: Why You Should Consider It and How to Forgive

A gift to yourself  

The idea of forgiveness makes many people shout, Never!!  Indeed, resentment, blame, recrimination, and desire for revenge seem so much more natural than forgiveness.

Is there anything to be gained by forgiving an offender?

Formerly associated only with spiritual wellbeing, it is now known that it also enhances emotional, mental and physical health. Releasing resentment, hatred and bitterness breaks the troubling connection with the offender. No longer consumed by what was done to you, you can move away from and beyond the offense. Without the crippling emotions, wounds can turn into strength and wisdom.
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Anxiety and Panic

Own Your Anxiety and Become a Discoverer!

Nathaniel, a college student, had been suffering from anxiety for more than two years. He found psychological help through his university but continued to feel lonely in his journey. He had chosen to hide his anxiety from his family and friends for fear of been judged as weak. As he continued with therapy, he decided to be open about his challenges.

One day he said, “I feel like I can move on with my life. I don’t need to be thinking about hiding my struggles. I can own it because I’m more than my anxiety!”
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How to See the Truth in the Mirror — And It Doesn’t Hurt

When you look in the mirror, do you shy away from the image of the person you see? If so, you’re like the way I used to be. Fortunately, through therapy and meditation and much self-reflection, I learned how to increase my self-esteem, build my confidence and greet that mirror image with joy that spreads throughout the day.

These tips helped me and they may be useful to you.

1. Treat yourself like you would a good friend.
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How One Therapist Sets Meaningful, Compassionate Goals

Marriage and family therapist Ashley Thorn got tired of setting resolutions she’d never see through. So she started setting goals around her mental and emotional health instead. Goals that meaningfully contribute to her well-being. Goals that are flexible and compassionate and based on her values.

For instance, in 2016, Thorn’s goal was to face her fears. Another year, after moving to a new area and realizing she was in a social rut, she wanted to make more adult friendships. The year after that, she decided to deepen the relationships she already had with longtime friends and family.
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Psychology Around the Net: July 8, 2017

Happy Saturday, sweet readers!

I hope you're all having a great weekend (or whatever day you're reading this!), but you definitely want to take a few minutes to check out this week's Psychology Around the Net which tells us more about canine compulsion disorder (and how learning about it helps us also learn about human obsessive-compulsive disorder), the emotional intelligence behind internet trolls, how to deal with friends who always bail, and more.

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Aging Wisely

We all have something in common. We’re getting older.

While this fact might delight children who can’t wait to be “grown-ups,” it is often a source of angst for those of us who have already “grown up.” There are approximately 76 million baby boomers in the United States, and their ages range from the early fifties to the early seventies.

It’s not surprising that this demographic is often bombarded by the media with anti-aging everything: skin creams for every part of our bodies, miracle “cures” for our wrinkles, youthful colors for our hair. They all promise to make us look younger -- to fix us. Botox and facelifts have become the norm for many people (men and women), and again, there is cosmetic surgery available for almost every part of our bodies.
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How to Turn Wishes into Plans

“It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
It is natural to want things and to engage in the dreamy exercise of wishing for them. Yet, wishes seldom would wind up turning into results.

To achieve wishes or dreams requires a somewhat firm goal and actionable plans that make success possible. There are two key elements here: the somewhat firm goal and actionable plans. Understanding each is crucial to turning wishes into plans.
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Maine Voices: Dog Breeder, Therapist and Liam Created a Chihuahua Miracle

Liam has changed my life, and now my relationships are stronger and healthier than ever before.
SEBAGO — In my mid-20s, I was terrified to reintegrate myself into society after losing my job and ending up on disability. Even though I was taking my medication for my schizoaffective disorder, it doesn’t control all my symptoms. I don’t have delusions anymore, but I am left with visual and auditory hallucinations. I became very lonely, and I was at a loss as to how I would continue to live the rest of my life. I needed a companion; I desperately wanted a Chihuahua.
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How Do You Know if You Are Depressed or Just Sad?

Contrary to what some people believe, depression and sadness are not the same thing. Sadness can come and go and affects your mood, while depression is a lingering cloud that affects your overall ability to function.

Sometimes it can be tricky to distinguish between what is normal for those going through a rough patch of life and actual clinical depression. Read the signs below to determine if your Eeyore-like mood could be something more.
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