Holiday Coping

How to Love Valentine’s Day When You’re Not in Love

There is so much hype around Valentine’s Day every year. Red and pink everything, in every store, and all over the internet. Don’t get me wrong…I LOVE Valentine’s Day! But what about those years when I wasn’t in love, or didn’t have a significant other to share it with? I wish that someone would have given me some ideas on how to celebrate myself, and some  ideas to experience self-love and self-compassion. Well, that’s exactly what I’m here to do! You don’t have to be in love or have a significant other to enjoy Valentine’s Day. And not only that, but Valentine’s Day could be any day to be able to show yourself some love and compassion.
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Holiday Coping

Happy New Year 2017!

With another year behind us, we have a lot to look forward to in 2017 for mental health. The biggest win for some people with mental illness was the passage of the 21st Century Cures Act, a law that includes a partial fix and reworking of some of the ways the U.S. federal government supports mental health.

But with another passing year, we've also lost a lot of wonderful people who helped to support the cause of mental health, most recently Carrie Fisher. I suppose it's the nature of time marching on that, of course, it cannot be stopped. And we've had some political changes in this country that seemingly are opening up greater divides between citizens. Last year was a year that will be remembered in history books, but the real question you have to ask yourself is: will it be remembered in your personal history book?

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Habits

Moving from New Year’s Resolutions to Setting Intentions: 5 Tips to Help You Start

New Year’s resolutions are a thing of the past.


When I was growing up, and even into adulthood, people would always be asking each other “what is your new year’s resolution” right before the new year was about to hit. And, me not knowing any differently, would always try to come up with something to change for the new year. This would go on for several days, and often the weeks before the new year. When I was in school one of my new year resolutions would be “next year I don’t want to procrastinate so much.” That generally lasted a couple of months, if I was lucky, and then it went by the wayside. According to
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General

5 Ways to Make Peace with 2016 and Authentically Move into the New Year

With just a few days left of 2016, we inch toward the final days of this tumultuous year. Many of us may be looking forward in hopes of a fresh new start in 2017, but if we are to do so authentically then we must make peace with what has passed.
For many of us, the world as we knew it was turned upside down this year. Our fears and shadows rose to the surface to be seen on the personal and collective stage. 
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Holiday Coping

New Year, New Chance to Raise Your Self-Esteem

It’s one of the most common concerns I hear in my practice. Clients worry that their self-esteem isn’t high enough for them to succeed in relationships, work, school -- almost anything. Not feeling good about themselves, they feel that changing their direction in life is impossible. They want to feel better. They want to feel they deserve better. They want to feel confident and competent again. They want to talk about it in session so they will feel good enough to make changes in life.
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Anxiety and Panic

‘Tis the Season

The joys of the holiday season: the picture-perfect weather, the dazzling holiday displays, and the ugly Christmas sweater parties. Even SantaCon is worth a couple chuckles.

But amidst the holiday cheer, there is a percolating stew of resentment and anger. Past slights, buried deep in our mental recesses, foment in our minds. Family volatility: the gift that keeps on giving.
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Aging

Psychology Around the Net: December 24, 2016


Happy Saturday, sweet readers!

I celebrate Christmas, which means today -- Christmas Eve -- I'm surrounded by friends and family and fortunately an extremely low number of gifts (our families decided to focus on the children this year, much to my delight). Over the years, I've become more and more aware of -- and sad to the point of sobbing about -- how our society has turned Christmas into a gluttonous commercial nightmare. To me, the holidays aren't...
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Anxiety and Panic

7 Practical Tips for Relieving Holiday Depression

For highly-sensitive folks and people predisposed to sadness, the holidays create a perfect storm for depression. There's the added stress of holiday shopping, decorating, and parties -- not to mention dealing with strained family relations; snowball and gingerbread cookies seem to stalk you; and a sense of forced merriment has a way of making you feel like a total loser if you change the radio station when "Jingle Bells" comes on.

According to research posted by the
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