Family

How to Live Life with Integrity

“Live your life with integrity… Let your credo be this: Let the lie come into the world, let it even triumph. But not through me.” – Alexandr Solzhenitsyn
When it seems like all the world is engaged in lies and deceit, it can be tough to hold onto your integrity. Yet, this is so crucial to living life in harmony and balance that it bears reconsidering the effort it takes to...
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Addiction

Repaving the Road

“If you don’t know where you are going, any road will take you there.” - Lewis Carroll
Yesterday, I spent 12 hours sitting in my therapy office as I worked with clients who brought with them, a collective steamer trunk of challenges, trauma history, pain, triumphs to celebrate, healing stories, insights, and wisdom. Thank goodness for those last few items, since if all I saw were the first, I’m not sure how I could have continued my career for the 38 years I have logged. If calculated in dog years, that would equal 342 turns of the calendar pages.
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General

2 Things We Say that Dilute Contact

How do you respond when people offer a heartfelt compliment or word of appreciation? Are you able to receive it gracefully or does it make you uncomfortable?

Often we don't avail ourselves of the simple intimacies that can affect the quality of our day. We let moments slip by without being alert to the possibilities of a richer connection, however brief it might be. Paying attention to our language and how we feel inside when someone does something kind can create a lovely bridge between our worlds.

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Books

7 Types of Loneliness (and Why It Matters)

One major challenge within happiness is loneliness. The more I’ve learned about happiness, the more I’ve come to believe that loneliness is a common and important obstacle to consider.

To be happy, we need intimate bonds; we need to be able to confide, we need to feel like we belong, we need to be able to get and give support. In fact, strong relationships are key -- perhaps the key -- to a happy life.
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Habits

5 Steps to Becoming a More Empowered You

So often, people feel powerless. There are actions you’d like to take but you don’t. There are possibilities you feel excited about but they fizzle out. There are passions you’d like to pursue but they’re overly perplexing. So what can you do?

Let’s begin with what is easy -- your words. Yes, what you say to yourself can have a huge effect on how you feel and what you do. Here are 5 easy ways to change your speech patterns to become a more empowered you.
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Anxiety and Panic

7 Steps to Stop Procrastinating — and Get More Joy Out of Life

Everyone procrastinates. We usually do it to avoid a task that's unpleasant or daunting. Some things are broad and require lots of time and effort, and may involve changing long-held behaviors or beliefs. Others are very specific one-time tasks. When procrastinating starts to interfere with our quality of life by causing us to feel worried, fearful, lazy, or irresponsible, then it's time to get on with it.
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