Habits

How to Be a Witness to Your Thoughts

“Develop the ability to stand back and be a witness to your thoughts. This will make your mind strong.” – Amma
If you’ve ever suffered from a jumble of thoughts and struggled to make sense of them all, be comforted that you’re not alone. Each of us has this unsettling experience, and some of us on more occasions than others. At times like this, it’s difficult to make any decision, since there’s often doubt and confusion clouding sound judgment. What’s a person to do? How can you quiet the discordant thoughts and arrive at some sort of clear thinking?
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Habits

3 Triggers that Cause Us to Reach for Our Phone & Miss Out on Life Experiences

How often are you picking up your smartphone and checking your notifications every day? If you are like most users you say around forty times, maybe less. Which means you are probably underestimating your phone usage by as much as 50%. The real number, according to a survey done by Nottingham Trent University's School of Social Sciences, is closer to 85 times per day, and that is a conservative estimate.

Just think of how much time is being spent staring at that screen. How often are we distracting ourselves from more important things? How much additional time is spent getting back on task? What are we missing out on in our day to day lives, or in our important relationships, by ignoring real life? Probably a lot, and it isn’t just our time that is being impacted.
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Habits

How to Turn Wishes into Plans

“It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
It is natural to want things and to engage in the dreamy exercise of wishing for them. Yet, wishes seldom would wind up turning into results.

To achieve wishes or dreams requires a somewhat firm goal and actionable plans that make success possible. There are two key elements here: the somewhat firm goal and actionable plans. Understanding each is crucial to turning wishes into plans.
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ADHD and ADD

What Is Intention Deficit Disorder?

Most readers of this article are familiar with the term ADHD which is defined as "a brain disorder marked by an ongoing pattern of inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity that interferes with functioning or development."

What is less familiar is the term, "intention deficit disorder," a different way to look at the problems associated with attention deficit disorder. What is intention deficit disorder and how can it be helped?

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Habits

How to Recognize and Foster Your Ability

“Ability and necessity dwell near each other.” – Pythagoras
What are you good at? If you must stop and think about it, that’s not a dreadful thing. In fact, it’s probably long overdue. The truth is that we get so busy living life and taking care of all the myriad tasks and responsibilities we need to tend to every day that we often don’t take the time to slow down and reflect. In this case, reflect on what we do very well, what really
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General

How to Stop Speaking Harshly to Yourself

Recently, I read an interview with author Danielle LaPorte where she stated that she never speaks meanly to herself. “Not ever.”

This blew my mind. Because even though I write regularly about practicing self-compassion and embracing ourselves, I still struggle with harsh self-talk.

I’m guessing you do, too.

It might not be all day every day. Your cruel self-talk might slither in after you make a bad decision, after you hurt someone’s feelings, after you make a mistake at work, after you have an “unproductive” day, after you fail a test, after you don’t achieve a goal.
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General

7 Reasons Why You Need Quiet Time

“We need quiet time to examine our lives openly and honestly – spending quiet time alone gives your mind an opportunity to renew itself and create order.” – Susan L. Taylor
Let’s face it. There’s a lot of noise and distraction in the world. Sometimes, the din is so loud and the interruptions so many and varied that it’s tough to tend to what’s necessary and right, much less what is desired. The yearning for peace and quiet, however, has more significance than just taking a well-deserved break. It’s an important and integral part of growth, renewal and joy of living.

But making the time to find comfort in solitude and
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Addiction

There Are Multiple Ways to Recover from Alcoholism

There are more than 12 million alcoholics in the United States. For some, the word "alcoholic" conjures up images of old men holding liquor bottles while sleeping in various doorways. This is an old fashioned depiction of a serious problem.


There are many different types of alcoholics. Functional alcoholics may work a professional 9-5 job without drinking. They may come home, take care of their kids, and quietly drink themselves into a different mindset. It does not matter if they drink liquor or white wine. People commonly try to distinguish the difference between a problem drinker, a drunk, and an alcoholic. The label matters less than the solution.
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Habits

Struggling to Get Something Done? Maybe You Need an Accountability Buddy

Have I mentioned that I’ve created a personality framework called the “Four Tendencies?” Oh right, I think I have. Well, if you don’t know about this framework, which divides all of humanity into four categories -- Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel -- you can read an explanation and to take the quiz to find out your Tendency here.

Of the Four Tendencies, “Obliger” is the largest Tendency, the one that the most people belong to, for both men and women. And...
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